Any of you experienced this...?

[bright and intense]

I wasn't entirely sure where to post this, but i guess it fits here.

You know (well, i'm assuming some of you do) when you tell one of your friends that you feel depressed, and suicidal, but tell them you'd never do it? And then you spend the evening talking to them about everything - although surprisingly self harm never came up - and at the end you feel slightly better.

Anyway, getting to the point, you never talk to your friend about it again, and feel pretty unloved because you told them that you wanted to kill yourself, and they appear to have forgotten about it. It's as if it isn't as important if you're not actually going to carry it through.

Of course, you could just be being an idiot because your friend is scared to bring it up incase they make you feel worse, but there's just that little feeling inside that says they don't love you?

Sorry about talking in third person, not entirely sure why I did that, but have any of you felt like this before? Or have experienced it from the 'friend' point of view? I'd be really interested to hear peoples experiences

Thanks x

[Chia]

Is it possible that they fear speaking about it will make it come true? By not speaking about it they're deluding themselves into believing that you're not thinking about doing it. Try speaking to them again, simply tell them that sometimes you could really do with someone to talk to, it will probably make them more comfortable, I doubt they've forgotten, you just have to take the initiative.
Good Luck.

[bright and intense]

I really want to speak to her again, but the problem is she has a bit of a volatile - for lack or a better word - personality. She's really, really nice sometimes, but other times she's just very hyperactive and loud. I'm scared that if i tell her she'll blurt it out when she's in a hyper mood . And the last time I talked to her I avoided her for ages (subconciously) and pretty much ruined our friendship. We've just built it up now and I don't want to lose her again.

[bright and intense]

And I'm pretty quiet when it comes to talking to something like this, it was so hard to pluck up the courage last time. I kinda need encouragement from her if you know what I mean.

[bright and intense]

eurgh i don't know anymore.

thanks anyway x

[Chia]

If you think your friendship can handle it, you should try. If not, find someone else you can confide in, another friend perhaps? A school councellor?

[B-S-F]

I've been the friend, although dont think I acted the same though, and the one feeling shit.
The way I see it, from a friends point of view, is depending on what happened and what was discussed. I didnt bring the subject up with my friend, but I let her know that if she ever wanted to talk, I was there to talk to. I felt pretty shocked by what happened and what was said though, and it scared me, to be honest.
From the other persons point of view, I talked to my friend about what we'd talked about, didnt go through all the feelings again, but told her that I was really glad I could talk to her, and I was sorry if I'd upset her. Suggest she found someone not "related" to me to talk to and told her our friendship meant loads to me, and I wanted to make sure I hadnt upset her, or disturbed it in anyway.
Hope that helps, its shit to be in that situation, and I know how you're feeling!! *hugs to you* thinking of you! xxx

[bright and intense]

Yeah I think I'll have a go at talking to her first. To be honest I don't really like counsellors, although the irony is I wanna be a psychiatrist when I'm older. Haha. I guess I just wanna make myself into my own ideal counsellor.

Thanks chia and crazy rabbit lady :) x

[bright and intense]

and thanks *b-s-f*, what you said makes a lot of sense. it's good to know someone feels the same :)

x

[Bleeding Angel]

i know from my friends point of veiw, its something really difficult to deal with, and hard to hear, after all you dont like knowing your friend is suffereing

[alina]

My friend told me about trying to kill herself and being in a mental hospital for the summer. I was about 15 or 16 when she told me. I can't remember now what i said to her but it made her feel better, whatever it was.

I never brought it up again.

I didn't ever think too too much on it either. I tried to concentrate on the good things about our lives and our friendship. We had fun together, being alive together. That is what i thought would help her most. I never thought that talking more about her problems would make her feel even better, maybe. I've never thought that until now. Now she's healthy and happy....and i'm not. But i haven't told her. We live with a few states between us now, so we only talk on the phone and she doesn't know all the things that have gone wrong with me know. I'm terrified of telling her, even though she could probably relate more than anyone else i know...

I think that a common misconception is that people think if they don't talk about something, or even think about it, then it just goes away. It's not that they don't care, it's that they don't know what to do, and just try to wish it away. I wish things worked like that.