Hi Chris,
I hope that it is O.K. that I (girl/ woman/
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Well, I don't suffer from the same side effects as you BUT I once took an AD and got very extreme nightmares from it and after changing my meds it was O.K. again. There are sooo many ADs and hopefully, you'll be able to find another one soon (with the help of your psych!) that fits better to you!
By the way, from a female (!) friend who had taken an AD I know that women can suffer from similar side effects like you do because well, women sometimes could lose the interested in sex because of ADs.
But I would say if you find a nice girl, she should be understanding and support you although some things don't function that easy because of your meds. That's love, isn't it? Being there for each other and support each other in good and bad times.
Concerning the voice: I hope that your psychiatrist will take it more serious and try to help you.
Hugs and hopefully you find better meds soon,
Judith
P.S.: Please don't stop to take your meds at once (and not without asking a professional for help) because stopping some ADs is like a real withdrawal.