Triggering (Abuse) - How to tell?

[razorblade_babi]

Hiya, i havent posted in here before but i guess that it would be the correct place to post this.

i was SA when i was 10 till i was 12 by a female friend who was a few years older than me.

this was like 10yrs ago now and it has recently started haunting me. my dreams and things like that. it was something i never admitted to and completly pushed outta my mind.

now its there tho i need to deal with it. i believe the reason im thinking and dreaming about it is the way my brain is telling me i am able to cope with dealing with it. . .well, we'll see.

Anyways, what i really want help with is this.
I've never told anyone any of this before. My best friend is strong enough to handle it and will be fantastic. im just unsure what / how much to tell her. i know she isnt a trained councellor or anything.
i dont even know how to tell her. i know she wont freak out or anyhting but, well, u know.

i dont know if im making sense here. but if i am, or u understand or u have any advice it would be really appreiciated.

EMZ

[Spoons]

its hard for us to tell you how much to tell your friend, it up to you, and how much you want to share, how much you think your friend can deal with, You seem to think she can handle it, so i think you should definatley try and talk to her about it, start by bringing the topic up and mention your experience, you'll be able to tell when you start talking about the subject how she is reacting. Obviously it is going to be hard for her to hear, but if she is as great as you think then im sure she will be nothing but supportive to you.

i hope it goes well and dont make yourslef discus anything that you are not comfortable with. I know, its a hard thing to talk about and it is very brave to want to tell someone about it.

Good luck
xxx

[Delphina]

I agree with Spoons sweetie, we don't know how well your friend is going to react but if she's a good friend of yours then she should stand by you so don't be scared of telling her.

As to how much to share, maybe start by telling her what happened, when and who and see how she takes it. If it goes well then you could start telling her more maybe a few days later after she's had time to take it in, but don't discuss anything you're not comfortable with, and try and stay as calm as possible so you can say what you want to say because it will be hard.

Good luck hun, all my love,

~Emmie xxx