Advice

sparky_jro · 17-06-2008, 09:49 PM

Hey all,
I am new here and would like some advice on SI.
I am 22 and have cut since I was 15, I am currently doing well and haven't SIed for 2 1/2 years, but I am getting worried. For the period I have been in a relationship, I am currently engaged and as long as I am with him I don't SI. The reason I don't is because there is no way I can hide the cuts from him unlike other people where I can be creative. But now I am back home for a few months and I am away from him, so that excuse not to SI is not there anymore and I am also dealing with a lot of loneliness being away from him and all of my friends. I had to go a couple of months in the same situation last year and just barely made it, this time I am dealing with a significant amount of stress and am unsure if I can make it, it has been 3 weeks and I already feel like giving in. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this. I have tried the "distraction" techniques and they have no affect on me. Even a friendly voice would be nice, I don't really have anyoen to talk to about this right now.

Sometimes Crazy · 18-06-2008, 12:15 AM

Hey,

I'm sorry you're under so much stress lately *cuddles* Are you still able to keep in touch with him - maybe writing him a letter to occupy yourself if you're triggered. Have you tried the elastic band/ice cube alternatives? Do you get any proffessional help for your SI at all? Take care, love

xx

sparky_jro · 18-06-2008, 04:26 AM

Yeah, I do keep in touch with him, I talk to him almost every night, but he isn't available for emergencies like he normally is, and I have a hard time having heart ot heart talk on the phone, I am touch based, I could talk for hours on a phone and not get anywhere, but just one touch cane make it all go away.
I have gotten help in the past for my SI, I was in therapy all through high school, but I haven't seen one since and I am going off of my parent's insurance soon and I won't have the job or money to get an insurance that will pay for a shrink for a while.

Wonderland. · 18-06-2008, 11:33 PM

Do you have any friends/family that can support you while hes away?
Well done for not SIing for 2 and a half years that is AMAZING and shows great strength and determination.
We are all here for you anytime.
Keep fighting.

Amy x

sparky_jro · 19-06-2008, 04:42 AM

I am very proud of the fact that I have gone so long and it is a driving force to keep me from cutting again, and a lot of that is because of My fiancee and all the support and stability he has given me, but when he is far away it gets hard.
I don't have anybody here which makes it hard. I have never been able to tell my parents about cutting since they found out the first time, for all I know they think I stopped after that, I have a hunch they knew I was continuing, but they never saw it, and to talk to them abotu it now would be too hard. 8 months ago my family moved from my hometown and I have only been here for about 3 weeks of that, so I don't know anybody here. I have met a few people but its been such a short time, I can't bring myself to talk to them about any of this. Which makes it harder on me being away from my fiancee, I feel so alone here, I just can't wait to get out.