Triggering (Abuse) - HELP!!!!!

[mermaidstar]

I dont know what to do and i feel sooo crap.
Please help me i feel so alone.

I have recently split from an domestic violence situation.Social services were involved as we have a baby together.The social worker seemed pleased i had finally ended it.But when talking about access i said i wanted him to have supervised access only.Would you believe the social worker said they wouldnt provide that as they didnt have any concerns! WTF? The reason i split was the babys dad threatened to beat me up and said he was scared he would hurt the baby.That was it! I didnt care if he hurt me but there was noway i would let anyone hurt a hair on my baby.
i told social services about this and the dad admitted.the social workers took my baby to A+E to check for injurys.My baby was fine.
The social worker said if i wanted him to be supervised i would have to get a solicitor involved as they didnt think there was i need to it.
My thoughts are that i would rather be safe than sorry.i dont want to go to a solicitor as i dont want to talk about the abuse but i will do anything to protect my baby boy.
please help!!
What should i do?
do you think this is me just causing a fuss out of nothing?
i have noone to turn to and am unsure weather i should be feeling like this

[blondiebear]

You are not causing a fuss out of nothing. I had a friend who endures physical abuse for years. Then when her husband went after their older child, who was still young, she walked out.

I totally agree with you that the visitation should be supervised. Good for you for making sure of the safety of yourself and your child. No legal advice but I'm cheering you on! It always is awesome to see people doing so much to take care of their children. You are doing the most important job in the world and you are doing it well.

Good for you to take care of your child and make sure of his safety.

[Yellow]

go to a solicitor.
for me...its that simple. you can NEVER be too safe with your child.
i think youre being a very very responsible Mommy.
will be thinking of you.
much love.
xxxxxxxxxx

[irkeninvader]

Do whatever you have to to have peace of mind about your child. It will be hard but you seem prepared to do anything for your baby, which just shows how good a parent you are.

[mermaidstar]

I am worried.if he says its not true.
although he has admitted it to the social he could always lye to solicitor,
i have not helped things i do cause him to be angry.he is always saying because of my bpd i perseve things differently.i am worried thats true.
What if its all because of my bpd.what if i went to the solicitor and they said it was my fault or didnt believe or said i was so mentally ill i couldnt look after my baby and took him away.

[mermaidstar]

Major sh*t going on.sorry will update when poss

[Yellow]

im sorry.
xxxxxxx

[Casper_Fading]

asshole of a man. get that solicitor. NOT your fault. pleas let us know how it's going.