Ive tried and ive tried again. I just dont think I fit in here anymore. I used to have a lot of friends from chat but now they are basically all gone and now I just feel alone. There is debbie (S_pod) but I dont think she should have to deal with my problems at the minute.
Its not just here. Its out there as well. I have hardly any friends and when I do go out with them its generally only because they want something from me or want me to do something, debbie is the only exception. I used to feel accepted in my work but now its different, its like everyone just wants everythin off of me and expects everything from me.There is one person who looks down to me and totally makes me look an idiot everytime I try to do something right and I cant bring myself to say something because when I told my mum she just said I was just being stupid. I know its in my head.
I just want to know I fit in, I have a place but right now it feels like I belong in hell.
Im just so messed up and I dont think I will ever be all right
Location: Denial Tent, Virtual Psych Ward Campsite, MA, USA
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some people changed their names in the move, and it may take time for some people to settle into a routine after they make their new accounts.
dont worry too much about fitting in on RYL, we're all misfits here I think! as for your friends i think that when we get down it is easy to minimize things and be pessimistic. i am sure that you are not as disliked as you think. if you feel like you are starting to drift away from your friends maybe you could try to get together with people more often and stay in contact more. you could invite some people out to the movies or out to eat. take what your mom said with a grain of salt. if this person says things that hurt you, regardless of if it is intended or not, you are still getting hurt and the problem isnt only in your head. you should say something before it gets worse.
it will get better, just hang in there. is there somebody that you can confide in about this? a good friend or a counselor? it always helps to talk.
Ann...that's my nieces name (hers is spelled with an 'e' though), it's a great one :).
Hon I agree with Callie, don't worry about fitting in here... We are all very different from eachother here though we do share some commonalities (that sentence was awful). Just keep posting. I don't always feel like I fit in but you know what? Regardless of how I feel people still encourage and support me so there must be something to this place :)
I'm sorry to hear about work and friends. Try and remember that sometimes people look down on others because of their own insecurities, not because of something actually wrong with the person they are looking down on. As for your friends...boy, I really am sorry. Sometimes friends just grow appart (sucks doesn't it). And if you feel they are using you maybe it wouldn't be a bad idea to find some friends that won't do that.
Sorry my advice is a little scattered...it's just reflecting my state of mind at the moment.
*hugs*
Take care.
Alyssa
Last edited by ~*forever_broken*~ : 19-06-2007 at 12:06 AM.
Reason: had to fix some spelling :)
I'm selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I'm out of control, and at times hard to handle, but if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.
~ Marilyn Monroe
i know often i can feel the same way. people seeming distant or uninterested if not outright argumentative. what ive found is that often at the times it seems the worst its not so much other's behavior that has changed but mine, that depression has gotten the better of me and it has distorted my perception of relationships and lead to behavior that has pushed people away. that may or may not be what has been going on but depression can be a very pervasive thing altering perceptions in order to reinforce itself. i hope things brighten soon.
Firstly Hello and Welcome to Vetland!
I agree with all that the others have said.
Its waaaay too easy to think that you dont fit. Trus me its the depression talking. Effort is what is required. An effort to join in, and effort to accept change and an affort to try and get to know new people. This place is constantly changing. Sometimes i feel out of sorts here when theres a big shift, but i make the effort to join in. The longer i leave it (and trust me ive left it), the easier it is to feel like you dont belong.
Read the posts, reply to as many as you can, make an intro or add yourself to the Vets who's who (sorry if you already have i have a terrible memory) and soon you will be as much a part of things as everyone else.
Looking forward to seeing you around the boards
Take care
Matthew x
~Phoenix~ is my Little Sister of Awesomeness and Self-Delusion :P Bitter Angel is my Mitten Animad is my Top Trump All Im Living For - Is my beautiful and special daughter who isnt called Kim but will moan if i dont add her :P
howdy doody!!!! welcome to you! You need to try and find a new niche :D I do believe that vet's could be it! People have changed, names have changed and even you've changed. Change is inevitable. Try vets for awhile, we're a welcoming bunch!!! Donb't give up on ryl honey! Ryl will never give up on you!!!!
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
Alive is sooooo right. RYL will never give up on you.
And the others are right as well. None of us 'fit' a mould, we're here because of a lot of reasons. Me - because I have people around me that don't understand anything and need to be able to talk to people who might. Or who are at least, tolerant.
And that we are here.
Welcome to Vets! And if you think you don't fit in, read some of the threads in the vets general forum, you'll find that we're all a little odd in our own way. (The Penguin is a great example of that (whispers) don't let him know i said that! He might throw ice at me!)
You don't have to be here every day, I'm not. You don't have to post something every time you're here, I don't. As long as you know that when you need us, we're here.
Take care,
Lozx
You don't have to be a monkey to recognize a banana!
Thanx guys. I really appreciate the time u took to actually write a response. I am gonna try and fit in here, I hope. Its just sometimes I feel so stupid cos i dont know wot to say to anythin and it really buggers me up.
Ill probably c u guys around
Thanx again
Take care
Ann xx
There is debbie (S_pod) but I dont think she should have to deal with my problems at the minute.
you know what ann?
there is nothing you could ever do that would make me hate you!
i know lately ive been really busy and really tired, and maybe i shouldent have to deal with your problems but here is the most beautiful thing about friendship i WANT to help you deal with your problems!!!!!!!!!!!
i know you find it hard to talk and im trying to be patient with you
i just want to say im so sorry that your feeling like this, please dont block me out
I reckon everyone feels a wee bit like that sometimes, and what other folk said are right - depression can seriously distort the way you view other peoples perception of you.
Hope you feel a wee bit more settled, and remember - chat will be back up and running soon too, chances are all the old folk will re-emerge
Sweetheart you don't need to try and fit it! Just be who you are! Vets is awesome for that now that we've got the seperate parts! if you're in a cheery of cheeky mood, come into general (i have a personal shopper i'm trying to get rid of *cough* share I mean...)and if you're down and out, come into support. We'll welcome you because you're you. That's what vets is all about
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
