Evil people

[Katch]

Sorry for a new thread but it really doesn't go with my others - but i am in a state.

I hate evil people
Why are people so nasty - why do they have to hurt each other so much - i hate it - i have had enough and i dont want it anymore - Evil f****ing Bast**** and i don't like swearing.
This man today has done a runner with all my mums money. He had started doing some work for me Dad before he died and apparently when my dad knew he was about to die he told my brothers - make sure you get Gary to do the rest of the work as he is a nice guy and I trust him.
He took all my mums money - made an absolute mess that we cannot even begin to sort and then dissapeared for a week and a half. Finally today i manage to contact him and he told me to forget it - (he's the one that took my dads pliers - that was the last time we saw him). He has left us with bills to pay ontop of the money he has taken as we have had machinary sitting outside that he had hired in our name. I am so angry and upset.
How can I even begin to tell my mum whats going on - she is going to fall apart - I HATE LIFE. Yesterday morning I felt strong today i just want to ...
I'm scared as it turns out he is a drug dealer and has been in trouble and threatened with prison - but I am also scared because 2 of my brothers want to bring the heavies in - they have big connections - nasty connections and that really scares me - they have found out everything there is to know about him and have phoned him and threatened him that if he doesn't get the money to us by Friday he will be getting a visit that he won't live to regret.
I'm scared coz he knows I am here on my own - what if he comes round at night or any time - what do i do. My brothers told me I am not allowed to go to the police until after friday - but they will be able to sleep coz he doesn't know where they live.
Voilence scares me so much - and i know the guys that my brothers will get love the idea of killing people and causing suffering - they do stuff like that for a living and have already phoned from miles away saying do we want them yet.... i hate it - it SCARES ME. Then what if he comes and threatens me - I don't want to carry on with this world - i hate living in a world where people do such wrong.
I'm so sorry as i dont think there are answers to this - but I am scared so much.

[irkeninvader]

Hun, that's awful, I'm sorry. I don't understand how people can be so horrible, it's beyond me. Would you be able to stay with one of your brothers for a few days if you're scared of this guy coming round? I think talking to the police would be the best bet - is there any way you could go to them without your brothers finding out?

[Katch]

I don't get on with my brothers at all - i only let them know coz of my Mum. If i go to the police and then my brothers get their 'connections' to do whatever they will do - it will be traced back to us I think and I am scared - what on earth would happen to my family then - i cant do that to my mum. i'm home alone coz she is in hospital - and i have the dogs to look after - i dont think i ahve anywhere i could go

[irkeninvader]

Ah I see. Hmm. Do you have any friends that live near you mum that might let you and the dogs stay for a few days? I don't really know what to suggest about your brothers and their connections I'm afraid. I understand why you're scared to go to the police. Sorry I can't be more help *hugs*

[Ratatouille strychnine]

I think police and trading standards would be your best bet. I understand why your brothers might want to take the law into their own hands and no doubt the bastard probably deserves what's coming to him but there are implications and consequences if they go down that road that they really don't want to get involved in. Can you try and persuade your brothers to let police or trading standards handle this?

If you do tell the police, then tell them that you are alone and feel vulnerable and they may have some advice for you to keep you safe until he's caught.

*cuddles you*
I'm so sorry you're going through all this sweetheart. *cuddles you some more*

[blondiebear]

Return the stuff he rented to the companies he rented it from. Let them know that he did not have permission to do that but that you will try to make good on the bills.

Your brothers are so willing to help on the ugly side of thing. Will they help with the finances? Can you ask them to just twist the guys arm until he pays for things?

Can you alert one or two of your neighbors to what is going on? Then if they see or hear something suspicious they can call the police. I have a next door neighbor who works a very early morning shift-for family reasons good for him- he also knows I'm a seamstress. There is one gent that he has seen going up and down my stairs frequently and has confirmed with me that he is one of my sewing clients.

Otherwise, lock yourself and your dogs in the house when you are there.

I'm so sorry that this has happened to you!

[Katch]

Ratatouille,
I have spoken to Trading standards and they have advised me to send him a letter teling him i want the money back with in 7 days or they (Trading Standards) will take him to court as it turns out they have a court order on him from the past for doing run offs. My brothers won't shift - they always think violence answers everything so i really can go to the police coz of the consequences.
- thanks for your advise


blondiebear
Thank you - I have spoken to one of the companies and they are only going to charge me cost price and wages - they are being nice and have offered to clear up some of the mess for cost price - I'm still not sure where the moeny is going to come from.
My brothers are just into violence and I can't reason with them - they think it solves everything.
Unfortunately I don't have any neighbours - I live on a field and we are the only house - that's why I haven't liked it whilst my mum ahs been in hospital - but i will carry on locking all the doors and i will keep my phone with me so if the dogs go mad i can ring someone straight away.

I am just so dreading my mum finding out - she really has been through enough and i don't know how she is going to cope with this - it feels like a huge kick in the face to my Dad as this guy was so aware of his death and how difficult his death was. He knows how bad my mum has been - i can't understand how people can be so nasty.

[blondiebear]

This guy is likely an addict and will do anything he has to!

Good thought to keep your phone with you at all times. Cause I do this, remember to keep yours charged?

[Kija]

i'm sorry hun, thats horrible. i think that bad people are put in the world to remind us what we dont want to be like. i hope everything turns out ok, it sounds incredibly stressful. sorry i have no advice for you. xxx

[Trucktastic]

This is bloody horrid, Honey. This guy is a nasty piece of work, and I think your brothers are not helping matters. If the guy comes round to your house, the only thing you can do/must do is call the police on 999.
They will be there in minutes and they will deal with him. If he has been threatened with prison, one more charge will put him there.
Whatever your brothers tell you to do. You do not need the worry at the moment. Your brothers have done nothing to help the situation, you are dealing with it, like contacting Trading Standards and the hire companies (that was a great thing to do, well done you!). They are just staying out of the way and mouthing off, but not doing anything helpful or constructive.

And most likely, they won't do anything to the guy anyway, it's probably all hot air.

Write the letter, then leave it to Trading Standards. if the guy comes round to your house, CALL THE POLICE ON 999!!! I can't stress this enough (I'm biased, I work for the Police), they will help you. They will get him off your property, they will arrest him if needs be, he will not be able to cause you problems. If he is on probation on that other charge you mentioned, he will be returned to prison straight away. And now the law has changed - the police and the Crown prosecution service can and will take away his assets so he will not be able to carry out crimes again.
And if/when he gets out, he will, most likely be sent to another part of the country rather than where you are. So you don't need to worry about that either.

Don't forget - you are doing the work here, not your useless brothers. And if he comes round, CALL 999!!!!

Lozx

[Katch]

I know without doubt it's not hot air - i shouldnt say that if you work for the police.
huge row with them - and i wanted to crash my car - i dont want this anymore - i just feel i have had enough.

Thank you for the responses.

[irkeninvader]

*hugs you* Hope you're coping alright today hun. Sorry you have to deal with this on your own. Please don't crash your car, I know it's hard but you're strong and you will get through this and be happy.

[Katch]

Today - I'm doing ok, it's been a hectic day - visits from the police, the press, trading standards, and phone calls from customs and excile - i just hope it can all get sorted - but i feel better that things are being done.

I have got just 9 days left here and i hope to make the most of them - i'd dreading saying goodbye to you all but i will be back in October.

[irkeninvader]

I'm glad you're getting things sorted now hun, it must be a weight off your mind. We'll miss you while you're away! Will be good to see you back in October :) Hope you're okay today hun