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Old 25-05-2008, 03:58 PM   #1
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Triggering (SI/Suicide) - Sad, lonely and confused

I have no idea where else to write this. I'm scared to be putting it 'publically' like this but I desperately need some support. Someone from church has lent me their PC for a couple of hours to find some online so that's how I've ended up here.

I don't know what to do anymore. What I'm experiencing is getting worse and worse. I've been SIing but don't know I've done it - literally cannot remember. It's been getting worse and I know eventually I'll have to go to A&E (ER for those in US!) but how can I possibly explain what is happening. They'll ask how and I won't be able to tell them. I'm not even really explaining here, though there is someone on this board who knows no-one else aside from CPN and GP do. I can't explain it properly because I can't.

The more I ask for help the more I reinforce the diagnosis of attention seeking. My issues (according to drs) are 'little thoughts' which if I want to I can control but I don't because they say I don't want to. I have no mental illness. I cannot get crisis intervention because by then not killing myself I am winding them up saying when I am suicidal. What choice do I have but to die? I've looked at suicide websites and been in chatrooms asking for support when it all falls apart like it is now and all I get told is go to hospital, phone your drs. I am not allowed to do that. I go to A&E like I have recently and I get refused treatment because I am a known timewaster. Timewaster because I overcame my suicidal feelings. Twice I asked for help. *Twice* and now I'm punished for it. Where do you go when no-one can be bothered to help you. I am exhausted from trying. From fighting.

The risk is to me and because I am so worthless I am left struggling. Telling my CPN gets me nowhere because they say talking makes it worse and to concentrate on the good things - though even he admits that is minimal. Friday I got a letter from the jobcentre asking me to go in to see their back to work advisor. I can barely cope with staying alive and now I have them on my back about not working and the council have refused me housing benefit. Over the past two weeks three separate people have had a go at me for being lazy and not working.

I feel incredibly lonely. Sad. Frightened. I can't do this. I can't. It's too much for me to bear. I try and think one or two days ahead and it paralyses me. The past two days I've been literally going from hour to hour. The date I set in March I let go past because I let myself beleive that by going to see the specialist maybe I could continue to exist. But he didn't want to know either. No-one does. They tell me to tell them the truth about how I feel and what I am going through and yet when I do that I get punished for it. I should have just hidden it as long as I could and then instead of asking for help just got on with it. It's a terrible thing to tell someone that they won't be judged or punished for asking for help when suicidal, be that on the edge or just having an inkling of it when they are - I can't seek help or treatment because when I do I get reminded of how I'm not dead so it isn't really a problem - the only message I have taken away from them is that I am worthless and should be dead.

I don't even know if I've said anything here or not. I'm such a mess

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Old 25-05-2008, 04:33 PM   #2
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*hugs becca*
Becca i'm sorry things are still so bad but its good to hear from you, i was worried when you didn't post for so long.
I don't know what to say except keep going to a&e if you need to, hopefully you'll get someone decent. You only have to tell them as much as you want, they still have to treat you. You aren't a timewaster, i don't believe that and i'm sure others here don't either.
Keep going honey and keep posting, can you keep using this persons pc?
Take care xxxxx



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Old 25-05-2008, 04:44 PM   #3
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Unfortunately I cannot regularly use a PC, the one I'm using is for temporary use because of helping them fix it. I'm sorry for worrying you dark_light.

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Old 25-05-2008, 04:50 PM   #4
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Hey,
I'm so sorry that you're struggling so much and, even worse than not getting help, you're being put down for asking for help. That's so wrong and just mean. I think it's totally wise of you to realize that you are struggling and ask for help-- it's more than enough just to say, "I feel awful." THat should be enough to get you help. If they don't listen when you do try to communicate verbally, then it's kind of no wonder your body is trying to show distress physically.

A lot of people do self-injure while dissociated and thus don't remember doing it or consciously 'choose' to self-harm. It's not weak or attention-seeking, and it's not something you can just 'snap out of' either. But it is something you can eventually stop-- by learning to be more aware of your feelings and learn the signs for when you are starting to or are likely to dissociate.

Do you have a therapist and/or a meds doctor that you like and trust? Sadly, some mental health practitioners are just rotten, but you deserve better treatment, and what they're telling you sounds very unprofessional and unhelpful-- I know it's hard but you've got to keep asking for help until you find someone who will listen.

I can't emphasize it enough-- asking for help for feeling suicidal or even just lousy isn't bad or attention-seeking, it's the smartest thing you can do. They might not have a 'magic pill' that will make it all better immediately, but they should at least listen to you, care about what you say and how you feel, and use their expertise to try to help you feel better, with meds, therapy, etc.

Maybe you can show your post to the CPN? Maybe there is a miscommunication or something, and if she sees it she will understand how you are feeling. If she doesn't listen or get it-- try someone else. Feeling suicidal is just so awful, and nobody deserves to feel that way and not get help. I'm sorry you've been feeling so rejected by the people who are supposed to help. That must be so painful.

Please take care.

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Old 25-05-2008, 06:01 PM   #5
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Hey you don't have to apologise, i was just happy to see you posting again thats all. Iknow you are in a difficult situation but its good to know you are okish.
Take care honey x



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