support/advice please

~SuNsHiNe~ · 17-06-2007, 07:06 AM

hey everyone
i could really use some help, im going thru a lot atm and i dont mean to be a whinger but i really need to talk about this...i feel embarrassed cos i think i should be over it seeing as me and my ex broke up nearly 6 months ago, but the fact is, im not. last year when we broke up my PTSD was at its worst and i said and did a lot of things im not proud of, which hurt my ex a great deal. ive aplogised, hes forgiven me and ive changed my behaviour (no ods or cutting in almost 6 months)..try as i might to get over him, i cant, cos i feel like he fell in love with me for a reason and if we could have more of the good and less of the bad (cutting etc) that it could work.weve kept in contact and he still cares but i think i may have screwed it up so bad that hell never want to give it another chance. i dont know what else i can do cept show him ive changed..we still get on so well tahts all..i dont know...

_holly_ · 17-06-2007, 08:59 AM

Hey there.
I kinda know how you feel. Don't feel embarrassed or ashamed, your only human, and your certainly not the only one who has felt like you do. I think it's a good thing to be honest with the people you love and care about. But its important to look after yourself first. Maybe it's hard for you to move on from your ex because there is something missing in another part of your life. I know for me it is the fact that I don't really do anything with my life. So I've decided to go off and join a few social/activity groups. Having said this, if you've got the rest of your life in "balance" and you really want to give this relationship another go, then talk to him about it. See how he feels. And don't resign yourself to the fact that you've screwed it up too badly, because that's just not true. There is always a chance for something to happen again if it's meant to.
Feel free to PM me if you want to have a chat, or just need to vent.
much love and hugs!
Holly

princesskaytie-leigh · 17-06-2007, 01:42 PM

Have you tried talking to him about it? You never know unless you ask!

~SuNsHiNe~ · 18-06-2007, 12:13 AM

i dont want to talk to him about it cos he alwyas said i was too fullon and that would just be proving to him that i havent changed.plus, in two weeks im going away for five weeks so theres not much poiint until i get back anyway. im scared of sayin anything cos i dont think weve had long enough apart, and deep down i know its not right for us to be together atm i just miss him and think that maybe it could work in the future, then again i guess my feelings might change...i also feel like life is short and when uve found someone that you get along with so well u should make the most of it right?

Isoverity · 18-06-2007, 03:23 AM

The attitude I found that saved me a lot of trouble was "if I get a realtionship I do and if I don't I don't". Maybe things can work and maybe not. You sound like a nice person. I think your just trying too hard and in too much of a rush. If you feel a pull on your stomach and thoughts and feelings that taunt you then you'll end up making mistakes because you will be an extension of your feelings and not your feelings an extension of you. If I knew more I could say more but I don't have much to go on.