Triggering (Suicide/Sexual Abuse) - unfortunately im back

[o.b.e]

i have no idea where to put this so i put it in serous discussion. im madly in love with a girl that has been sexually abused. she has been cheating on me with other older guys and doing drugs. she tells me she cant say no and that i don't understand. i understand it a little but i cant handle all this. i ,myself, have a history of being suisidal. i don't know what to do now. she means the world to me. but i cant have her doing drugs and cheating on me all the time. i know what she has been through, but i don't know where to draw the line. what do i have to do? what should i do? how do u love someone who cant control oneself, and not get hurt. i love her. she loves me, but i dont know what to now. i just dont know

[JDenning]

Wow I can't give any advice, so I hope that someone else can help you

[Caffe_al_Caramel]

I'm sorry to hear that.
I also have a history of being abused and right now I am in a relationship.
He doesn't know about it, and sometimes I act stupid because I can't help myselfe. I don't cheat, but I do stupid (to him - unexplainable) things.
The thing I miss the most, and hurts the most, is that I feel I have no support or understanding from his side (I have never told him about it, because I am affraid that he wouldn't see me the way he sees me now), and not having the support and understanding hurts more than the "potential" break up.
No matter what you will decide to do, be there for her, show her that you do understand her. I hope things will work out for you two!

[o.b.e]

this is a very thick story. im older than she is. everyone is telling me i not helping. she only loves me because she wants a older father figure type. i disagree because im not that much older than her. i met her in high school. i graduated just a year and a half a go. yea she was a freshmen when we met, but am i making it worse? will she ever snap out of it? i need advise. ironically i went to a counselor and they blamed me for everything. said i was using her and told me its because im sexually repressed which is not me. i haven't been with her physically in over 2 months and trying to be solvent for a year and a half. does she really have "need" to physically taken care of. and if i do it am i making it worse. im so lost right now. if i didnt love her so it would be so much easier

[Caffe_al_Caramel]

Is she getting any professional help ?
I think that more important the pshysical part is the emotional part.
It's hard to give advices to be honest,, every person is different,, and even tho eventually she will snap out of it, I doubt she will ever forget, but with lots of help and support eventually she should be able to overcome this.