I had a bad day.

[Rebby4life]

My day was not that great. Well my week has been bad. I almost went and cut myself. I didn't which was good for me. But I think I didn't do it because I did not think it was so bad that I needed to. See, no one in my house knows I cut. Only my boyfriend and a few friends. So I have to hide it if I do it. I just wanted to know if anyone had a word or two to help. I want to stop cutting. But with my family life being in the hole. I don't think I could.

[Snow White.]

Hey hun,

I'm glad you didn't cut yourself even though things were tough, that's very strong of you =) Stopping cutting cna be really difficult because it's a coping mechanism we use to deal with our negative feelings and the like, but it's only short term and doesn't solve and of the issues you're facing.

If you want to stop cutting, a good step is to have some sort of support. Are you speaking to a counsellor or a professional like that .. or making an appointment to speak with your doctor.

It might be a good idea to read Stop trying to not self harm - and start not needing to.

What is it about your family life that is so difficult? You're welcome to elaborate on that, see if we can offer any advice. In the mean time you've got to stay strong and remember that self harm won't solve your problems and will only make things worse in the long term, so please try & keep yourself safe, and keep posting.

Welcome to RYL =)
xoxoxo
Aimee

[Buttercup.]

I'm sorry you've been having a bad week. Is there anything specific that has made it bad or brought you down? Remember now, an important part of recovery is dealing with what is causing or triggering you to cut. What are your feelings behind the cutting?

You are right, recovery can be difficult when you are leaving ones closest to you in the dark. Have you considered telling your parents about your SH? I know it's a scary thought but it could be helpful.

Take a look at the article, Preparing to Stop. It could have some helpful tips and ideas. Good luck, you will beat this. Keep fighting.

Jess xx

[nowhereman]

I'm sorry as well that you're having a bad week but that's really good you didn't cut and that you want to stop. You CAN stop, but it will take time and a lot of work fighting off urges. Distracting yourself when you have urges is a good thing to do, there's lots on the site, the ryl arcade or the distractions thread, just try to stay away from triggering posts when you have urges!
Do you think maybe you could think about telling your family you cut or would that not be an option for you now? It's jsut that it's difficult having to hide it all the time and then lying if they do see cuts, and plus they may be able to help you if they knew. Just something to think about anyway. If you're not ready right now that's fine but maybe in the future.

[Harley]

Well done on resisting the urge to hurt yourself - that proves a lot and you shouldnt forget that :)

As for not needing to any more - one step towards that is communication - opening up and trying to let things out, rather than holding them in and keeping them to yourself

And we are very happy to listen and help with all of it :)

Best of luck, and take good care of yourself


Harley

[meganf]

hey hunni
i know it is hard
well done for gettin this far.
take care of urself.
if u can get this far hunni
u can take the rest of the world on.
keep urslef safe
PM me if u need to talk

[Rebby4life]

Thank you all. It is nice to know there are people who care.

[abcdefgpie]

On here there is always, will always be people who care.
PM me if you need to chat.
Sorry I'm not much use.
*hug*
Rhiannon xxxxx