Lately almost every night as I'm lying in bed trying to sleep, every stupid/embarassing thing I've ever said or done just comes flooding back to me. I've tried forcing myself to think of other things, listening to music, and watching a little tv, but none of it seems to work. Once I try to sleep again the memories attack.
It's frustrating because this happened to me a lot a couple years ago, then stopped for the longest time. Now it's back and I can't stand it, especially since a lot of the memories are triggering.
What I wanted to know was does this happen to anyone else here?
If so, do you have any tips for getting through it?
heya hunni, yeah this used to happen to me a lot too, so ure not alone. The way i try and deal with it is by saying to myself 'yeah ok, x happened but its done now and i can't change it'. I guess its all about accepting the situation and trying to move on. Im not saying it'll work over night, it takes practice, but i can honestly say im not as affected as i once was. I hope this helps and that things improve for you soon.
much love and hugs
Dani
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this happens to me alot. i do a lot of the things you've tried. maybe even fall asleep with the tv on? it really sucks but i suppose the best advice i can give is that everyone does/says things they regret, it doesn't mean people think any less of them.
*hugs*
Hey darlin! This seems to happen every night to me! If something embarrasing happened that day I will relive it over and over again in my mind before I go to sleep. No matter how much I try not to think about it. I dont really have any advice as such but just wanted to let you know you arent alone in this!
Oh my gosh you aen't alone.
It used to happen to me all of the time and it kept me awake all night sometimes.
It doesn't happen now, but I don't know what made it stop.
I have alot more on my mind now - financial issues - so it must have just been replaced I guess.
I hope it gets better again.
Take care.
xxx
Well content loves the silence, It thrives in the dark, With fine winding tendrils,That strangle the heart,
They say that promises sweeten the blow, But I don't need them, No, I don't need them...
This happens to me too. Try and tire yourself out during your day so that as soon as you go to bed you'll fall asleep.
It doesn't always work though but it's worth a shot.
~Wat doesnt kill you makes you wish you were dead~
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u are not alone. that used to happen to me a LOT.
now,not so much. i know,its horrible to get attacked by our worst memories when we are alone in silence at night. its really scary.
but the trick is to have a quite full day. try to wake up early, do a lot of stuff,eat properly...or sleeping pills really help. that really helped me.
if you like games,play a lot of them(specially because it makes your eyes tired). if u do something u really like,it will make u satisfied and more "at peace" and relaxed,ready to go to sleep.
i wish u the best of luck!
Everyone is going to hurt you sooner or later.
You just have to decide whose worth the pain.
This happens to me every once in a while. It used to be almost everyday about 2-3 years ago, but I came to accept it and now it doesn't really bother me anymore. It may not make sense, but I think just accepting the fact that you are going to have bad thoughts at night will make it easier once you get used to it. I'm sorry I don't have really any tips, but if it is really affecting your sleep maybe a low dose of sleeping pills?
Oh, that happens to me all the time. I obsess over everything I've said and done, and no wonder I don't get enough sleep. But if I was really overthinking something, I discovered just sitting quietly and meditating on it helped me relax and go to sleep. I have a little classroom and I just throw everything out the window and lock it, and it helps me sleep. It probably sounds strange, but there you have it.
I'm outside your picture frame, and the glass is breaking now...
It happens to me every night, and sometime when I'm not trying to sleep, sometime just at random time if I'm reminded of it, I hate when it happens
Take me away, I just want out from this self-imprisoned self-made Hell. Don't be surprsed, this is your mind coming to life by self-sacrifice. This tragedy of death will walk hand in hand with every thought of regret. Blame yourself for what you've become. The mind is a powerful thing set to self-destruct.
~I, Dementia - Whitechapel~
I can top that; I'll think of a conversation I'd had with someone and suddenly think of something more clever to say, or with a different inflection in my voice and make a facial expression with it or talk out loud and I'm pretty sure people think I'm talking to myself.
I'm outside your picture frame, and the glass is breaking now...
that sounds like me too, I just can't ever think of it at the moment, well that is about 99% of the time. I dunno, also when I think about them I tend to repeat my part of any conversation aloud without realising it.
Take me away, I just want out from this self-imprisoned self-made Hell. Don't be surprsed, this is your mind coming to life by self-sacrifice. This tragedy of death will walk hand in hand with every thought of regret. Blame yourself for what you've become. The mind is a powerful thing set to self-destruct.
~I, Dementia - Whitechapel~
this happens to me every night. i have to sleep with the tv on now.. if it's not on then i just get flooded with triggering memories. I tried with music too but that just made me want to dance... not good when you need to sleep. but now i always put a DVD or the tv on before bed.. even if don't watch it and just lsiten. it takes my mind off a lot.
I can highly recommend keeping a notebook/ diary by your bed, and when you get in at bedtime write down all the thoughts bugging you, because it somehow helps you rationalise them and empty your head. Otherwise I can also vouch for sleeping with the tv on, its somehow quite comforting and listening to it can stop your mind racing.
Oh yeah, music's definitely helped me fall asleep a lot. Sometimes it doesn't work, but when I was younger and scared to death of thunderstorms it definitely did. <3
I'm outside your picture frame, and the glass is breaking now...
Happens all the time to me. I am always thinking how I should have said something differently or how it could be taken differently, etc. Always remember criticisms aswell - even from years ago. Drives me crazy and yes is probably a part of the cause of my insomnia problems.
"Everything is possible through Christ, who gives me strength". Phillipians 4:13
it happens to me from time to time. i think it's just because it's the end of the day and our mind is buzzing with everything that has happened that day, or in this case, earlier than that. when we're trying to sleep, there's nothing distracting us from these thoughts, and so we think of them more. i'm not entirely sure how to get rid of it, as mine just went away. i think maybe if you think of positive things that have happened that day, or week, that may help push the bad thoughts to the back of our minds.
This is typically what my mind does at night... its stopped recently (Less anxiety) but was a terrible pain before... Liek I awlays remember the horribel thinsg my 'friends' have said.... Meh.. Have you tried meditating? It may sound stupid but it kinda works for abit
