my mum was in my room

[Asi]

this is so stupid, but I'm upset because my mum came into my room while I was at work. She only came in here to clean, but it feels like an invasion of privacy. I just want some space of my own,but it's not my space if she can just come in here when she wants.
My parents are really frustrating me. I wanted to apply to a university without them knowing so they couldn't interfere, but I told my aunt and then she told them and now they're trying to get me to apply to the college across the road. I want to go away somewhere where I can live away from them and I won't have to see them for months at a time. They try to control everything I do but they don't help me with things when I do want their help. My driving instructor (which they booked for me without telling me) keeps telling me to book my theory test but I don't know how and they won't help me. I asked my dad a few times to help me fill in my tax return form but he just kept saying he'd help me with it later. I was supposed to send it in a while ago and I don't know what's going to happen now/ They only care about me when it suits them.
I want to get away from here. I can't stand living with them. I don't even like going downstairs before they've gone to bed. I want to live my own life.

[Relentlessrockstar1986]

Hey hun. -Hugs-
Why not ask your mom to not go into your room? It sounds obvious but maybe it's not clear to her that that is your territory. If that fails, consider putting a lock on the door? (though I guess you'd have to be paying rent to consider that :P)
Don't let them tell you where to go and what to do. Tell them that you're listening to them, considering what they want but ultimately it's your decision as it is your life. They should respect that.
Have you thought about going to connexions to get help with booking your theory and tax return? They might/should be able to help you out and if not point you to somewhere that can help.

Take care hun :)

[Caru y Nos]

I agree with VainRadical here...

It's your choice, don' lt them sway you... you make the decision of your future alone!

Your privacy should be respected... is it possible for you to offer to do all the cleaning in you room? This will get rid of all her reasons to go into your room! A lock maybe a step too far, so this may be a better first step.

Try not to leave anything out, and keep your information safe... i have a small, cheap safe for things a don't want family to see... makes things alot better for me (personally)

Friends are a great resource... try to call in a couple of favors... i'm sure they wont mind! ;]

Take Care,
Keep Safe,
Domicile of Madness

[TimesLikeThese]

Tell them how you feel.
If/when your mom goes into your room again, just quietly say, "um, mom, i'd prefer it if you didn't go in my room without my permission" or something like that. and tell them you want to go to uni somewhere else, and that you're not a little kid anymore, that you can make your own decisions.
good luck and take care xx

[rebbie]

omg. i can so relate to what your sayin coz i have the same problem with my mum. she will say 'i was just cleaning your room and i found this' when i know the thing that she has got was in the bottom of a drawer or something. its so annoying its untrue. its like she has to know all the little details of every single aspect of my life. xx

[JDenning]

Well I don't think it's a good idea to just outright say "don't go in my room" because that would make them suspicious about whats going on (personal experience) But just sorta let them know that you would like to have some privacy in your room and I dunno get a key lock for your door, you know how to install one? its the easiest thing in the world, just don't give your parents a key. XD