offering support?

-Shae-Lynn* · 06-05-2008, 04:51 AM

How do you help someone, when by helping them you only hurt yourself? My friend, she is going trough a really rough time right now. What she is talking about though, it triggers me because she is dealing with a lot of the same stuff as me. I'm really dedicated to quitting though right now. I'm almost a week and a half free from SI. But I can't just be like "I'm sorry, I can't talk to you!" If I did, I know she would end up SIing even worse. So, what can I do to still help her, but to make sure I'm not endangering myself?

Just Believe. · 06-05-2008, 12:51 PM

Firstly, well done on going over a week without hurting yourself, you should be proud :)

Could you try and persuade your friend to talk to someone else? Does she have any support right now, aside from you?

Remember you are the most important person in all of this and you need to take care of yourself and then support your friend.

Look after yourself and if you need anything I'm just a pm away.

Kirsty x

88shelz · 06-05-2008, 02:28 PM

its great that you wanna support your friend.
you need to try tell her though how it ia effecting you.
you could direct her to someone else
or
share your experieneces and worries ....
that way you are both supporting each other.

pushing yourself to help your friend while in a bit of a fragile state wont help either of you.

look after yourself and be careful. xx

Caru y Nos · 06-05-2008, 06:09 PM

I agree with the above, my first thought at reading it was that you can help by showing her someone or something that can help... such as RYL maybe?!

Anyway, getting hurt yourself wont help anyone!

Take Care,
Keep Safe,
Domicile of Madness