I need help on making friends

[fairyofdeath02]

I need some help with making friends... I'm horribly shy, and out of high school. I really regret not making the best of my high school years because now its like things are worse and its harder for me to find any friends.

I am unemployed and not going to school (can't afford college, am looking into financial aid though). I've filled out I don't know how many job applications in my area, it is really frustrating that no one has called me back for a job offer, and I've called the places back I've applied for and they just say "they'll check into it" and never do anything. So I have been persistent in finding a job, so I can at least not waste away hiding in my room, doing absolutely nothing.

I can't even drive, so I can't drive out to go places to meet others. My parents don't trust me with their car. Basicly I think I'm hopeless in this situation.

The "friends" I do have I'm suddenly realizing aren't the best friends for me right now.... I need to surround myself with people that are a bit more empathetic and understanding. I feel like none of the friends I have now really care about me like they used to. They even pick on me at times... they say they're joking, but when it becomes a constant thing, I'm starting to rethink things....

I also think my self esteem issues play a big part in my shyness.

[BodyUnderSeige]

hey. I find that ive made good friends through sporting teams. if ur not into sport um u can try like other groups or clubs. sorry im not to good with advice =s. i hope it all works out tho matey. we r always here for u =] x

[green.eyes]

i agree
is there anything going on in your community you can get involved in? hang in there on the job front, something wil come up.
take care
*hugs*

[Scabette]

Hey. I'm kind of in the same place right now. I've been looking at volunteering, and I keep going out with my friends, because you never know who you might meet in the pub. Though I wouldn't advise you to go out with friends who pick on you. Are there any tolerably nice ones? Just so you don't become a total hermit lol
Maybe while you are not really doing anything you could try working on self esteem and that kind of stuff? Then when you do get a job or go to college then things will be better. Anyway, I definitely feel for you. x

[Wonderland.]

Get involved in your community. I have made loads of friends playing football for the local team. Doing gymnastic and trampolining. Im doing a bit of volunteering atm that'll make you friends and you can volunteer for just about anything. You could do some work experience as well that'll help with the job hunting aswell.

Amy x

[Detour. Derail]

I agree with what everyone here has said....
Hang out on the job front...it might take time but don't give up hun!
And as for your so-called friends...if they are picking on you they dont DESERVE to be called friends...you can do so much better!!!
In the meantime...why not take up a few hours in a local charity shop? sure...you dont get paid for it...but its a great way to meet people and it may help you feel better because you are helping people :]
Your confidence and self esteem will get better hun...it just takes time.
Who knows...maybe if you can get to a local RYL meet in your area you'll probably make loads of friends there :) !!
Sorry I cant be much more help but if you ever want to chat...my PM box is always open!
Take care of yourself hun
Alexx
xxx