I Fancy My Friend - Help Please?

Sofie · 15-06-2007, 01:25 PM

This is really annoying me right now...

I met someone (as a friend) about 4 years ago and 6 months later, fancied him. I told him that there was a rumour going around about it and he told me he was with somene. He then asked me if this rumour was true and I told him no.

5 months later, I admitted to him that I did actually fancy him and it got really complicated and got to the stage where being around im/talking to him was impossible. He also told me that I needed to move on - those weren't his words, but I know that's what he was trying to tell me.

Around May last year, I got introduced to someone and thought that would be a good time to move on. (He was with someone though0

anyway, around April this year, I started to have feelings for m friend again and just got told to tell him - the person that said this doesn't know what happened before.

Couple of questions - do I keep quiet about this and act as though nothing's wrong? And do I move on whilst staying friends with him? I don't know if he's worked anything out yet, which I'm slightly worried about...

princesskaytie-leigh · 15-06-2007, 04:35 PM

I guess all you can do is talk to him. Is he with anyone now? Also, if this person you want to move on with is with someone, do you really think its wise?

I think you should talk to your friend about how you feel, let him know you like him again and you want to know what he thinks about it. If afterwards, you feel ready to move on, then wait for something to come along. If you go looking for it there'll just be more problems, I've been in this situation before, and I ended up using people to try and get over this guy, which isn't fair!

Good luck, xx

Sofie · 15-06-2007, 05:49 PM

He is with someone.

Sofie · 15-06-2007, 06:33 PM

The problem with talking to him about this is that he's one of those people who are really difficult to talk to about realtionships, which is the reason why I won't tell him. (and because me & him both know nothing can ever come out of this)

When I told him before, he acted exactly the same as he did before I told him. I did seem to act differently though.

princesskaytie-leigh · 17-06-2007, 02:03 PM

Well if he's with someone then there isn't much you can do about it? If you know nothing can ever come out of this then perhaps you need to just get over it and move on?

Sofie · 17-06-2007, 07:04 PM

Ended up emailing him on Friday and told him (which really wasn't a good idea and I should've learnt that last time) and he said something to me, which I thought was strange:

I was just hoping you would be saying that you'd met someone your own age on thesite.org that you really liked and were getting into a happy relationship with them.

The next few days should be interesting...

princesskaytie-leigh · 19-06-2007, 12:12 AM

He obviously wants you to be happy, just not with him.

Sofie · 19-06-2007, 07:30 PM

Which is what I thought.

Have been talking to him (about unrelated stuff; just the usual chat about music) and he's basically acting as though nothing's happened - which is what I asked him to do and I seem to be very nervous whilst talking to him. (we're talking over MSN so he can't see that I'm this way)

princesskaytie-leigh · 20-06-2007, 07:02 AM

If you can carry on being friends with him and try to get over your feelings, then I don't see any problem with you talking to him. You don't even have to see him, I have plenty of friends that I never see, but we talk on msn alot. Stop concentrating on him as a love object and just chat with him. Start looking elsewhere for someone who's single who can give you the time and dedication you deserve. It might not happen straight away, but it will one day. You just have to be patient unfortunately. Good luck.

Sofie · 20-06-2007, 12:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by princesskaytie-leigh

Start looking elsewhere for someone who's single who can give you the time and dedication you deserve. It might not happen straight away, but it will one day. You just have to be patient unfortunately. Good luck.

Which is what he said to me in his email to me on Sunday and I ended up telling him that I'm not interested in having a relationship with anyone. (which makes me odd, apparantely)

emo_lover · 20-06-2007, 12:55 PM

i had dat problem a wile bk i really liked a guy who got my bus we were really good freinds and shared every thing i then really started to fancier him and got really raped up in him and wanted to talk to him and see him, all the time but we were still just freinds then when it was my other mates b-day she was having a really big birthday everyone was comin so was my mate that i liked wen we wer at the party iwas goin to tell him how i felt when i had built up the courage to tell him i walked over and saw my mate whos party it was locked lips with him i turned nd walked away i havent really spoke to him since and well maybe its better if you do move on cuz other wize more than likely u will get really hurt xxxxxxx