Hi Everyone!
I hope to find you all well.
I just thought I'd share something with you all. I've had extremely hard relationship problems in my life, where I become attached and feel horrible for long periods of time - like months - after we part.
Anyway, I asked my old youth pastor about how to handle it. What should I do about not being able to get over the sadness of losing someone who helped you through a lot of things? and she told me this:
that everyone comes into your life at some point for a purpose. The people around you who have an affect (effect? who knows) on you were sent here to do something with you, to teach you a lesson, to be there for you and fufill their purpose in your life. sometimes, when you part from eachother, it can be really hard, but there's a reason for it, and you have to look at what you've accomplished while that person was in your life. Even when you are hurt by the way they left you, you have to look at what they did in your life while you did have a good time with them. and though there are some people in this world who you would love to get out of your life forever, they're here for a purpose too, even if it is to make you aware of the hard world out there and become stronger and fight against them and make the world a better place.
anyway, after i heard this, i felt a lot better about the relationships i've lost and the relationships to come in the future, and now feel refreshed and actually ready to be able to trust again and come out ready to take on something that i've been really scared to do: trust someone who i knows cares about me. because even though i've been scared to trust even those who i knew cared about me, i found out that it's ok to trust sometimes. you will always be let down. it's a way of life. but you can't let that fact get you down and withdraw from trust. trust is needed for everyone, and it's good to find someone who cares about you to confide in.
everyone is in our life for a purpose.
