Adult - not happening

little_unicorn · 28-04-2008, 05:04 PM

me and my boyfriend decided we wanted to have a baby together. we havnt rushed into this decision, and have though about every aspect of it and decided we are ready. the only thing is my boyfriend has cf and there is only a 3% chance that its going to happen naturally for us. despite this, we have been trying and although i knew it wouldnt happen it is still hard that its not happening for us. in order to get ivf we have to have been trying for 2 years. it breaks my heart. :'(

Silver Phoenix · 28-04-2008, 07:28 PM

I'm afraid I don't really have any help. I'm guessing you've been to the doctor to ask if there is anything either of you can do to try and help the process along?

charcoal feathers · 28-04-2008, 07:42 PM

I know it's upsetting and disappointing for you, but you're still young, keep trying you never know it might happen and hey it's a good excuse for more sex and different position to try :P
For a lot of people it can take a good few years for them to get pregnant, for others it can be the first time.
Just let nature take it course, this time next year you could be pregnant.
If not, then try IVF.
Just try not to let it get to you too much
Take care
x

Mandimoo · 30-04-2008, 12:27 AM

also if you have been taking the pill then it might be longer than 2 years.
i was told 9months for the pill to be out of my system and my hormones to be at 'normal' levels and for my cycles to have returned to 'normal' and then start counting.

i'm supposed to be completley infertile.
i have a 3 week old daughter.
we conceived naturally after 3 months pill-free.
i don't have 'normal' cycles or hormones.

the easiest thing to do is get your bf's sperm checked in every which-way, the dr can arrange this. Also talk about how your bf's CF might affect your child - either genetically or after birth in their upbringing. It's better to know what support networks etc are out there before you need them.

Good luck and there might well be a CF forum with a section on becoming parents.
mand x

little_unicorn · 30-04-2008, 06:01 PM

thank you to everyone who has replied.

Mand - congratulations on the birth of your daughter, you must be so happy.

ive never taken the pill so that isnt an issue for me, but i have pcos so my hormone levels are all over the place, although have been more level recently.

we've talked about how my bf's illness will affect the baby. im waiting to be screened for the cf gene. if i dont have it then the baby wouldnt havr cf, but could be a carrier. if i did have it then there would be a 1 in 2 chance the baby would have cf and that is something we would have to talk about when we got the result.

i hope i dont come across as being nieve about the whole, ive spent some much time and effort researching. talking and thinking about what would/could happen. it feels so right, and i surprised myself when i realised that because i never used to want children. i guess we'll have to see what happens

thanks again

Lauren x