Hey, I'm having an abortion in the morning and I'm really scared. My boyfriend is amazing and is supporting me so much, but I'd like it if anyone thats been through it before could help settle my nerves?
i hope everything goes ok hunny *hugs*.
im always around if you want to talk.
xxx
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I wish i had my world complete again.
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i had one 5 years ago, i am so glad ur being well supported through this time, i hope you are ok and the termination went to plan. pm me if you ewant to talk through anything, especially how your abortion was.
hey i had an abortion planned but didnt end up needing it as i lost the baby at 8 weeks gestation. so i sort of know the feeling of loss and the feeling of not wanting a baby and it not being the right time.
so glad you have support, the baby's dad just told me today that he can't remember me telling him i was pregnant and he cant remember me telling him i miscarried either.
love n cuddles, mand x
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
MANY years ago i had to have one for medical reasons, they said i AND the baby would not survive.
So, sadly, i did.
Honestly it WAS NOTHING like i expected, i too was so scared.
But they treat you MUCH different than a 'normal' GP does, they are VERY friendly and they work HARD to make you comfy.
They explain everything and anyting, they let you have a few minutes to think of any questions you may have, they actually leave the room so you can do this in privacy.
Then they give you a mild sedative, generally valium (drug may be different there, but its just a MILD somehting to settle you even more.
They offered to hold my hand when we got started, would i like some soft music, etc..then, they put you in a bed for 20-30 minutes. More if you need/want. Just to make sure all is well, you especially, your mood, any pain. They give you the number of a Pro place for your checkup ( i forget now how long you wait to go)
But she is a pro-choice) and VERY kind and gentle.
She (pro-doc) again checks your mood, healing, any pain, any bleeding, etc. offers you somone you can go see for a few sessions after, IF you want, no pressure.
OH one part i just remembered, the night off, i woke up to pee and i was bleeding HEAVILY, i panicked..turns out this is VERY common and to just relax, get in a hot bath for 30-ish minutes (hot water stops/slows the bleeding)and then crawl back into bed. I was very frightened but there WASNT anything to BE scared off.
AND, MOST important
This IS your AND BF'S DECISION ALONE! DO NOT allow anyone (from here or elsewhere) try and 'guilt 'you out of if simply because THEY think Different. SO WHAT???!!! It is NOT their life/decision, its yours. Hopefully they will have the decency to keep their opinions/beliefs to themselves and their mouths shut!!!
Giood luck hunni..its VERY hard in osme ways to do...but if its right, its right.
Pls update when you can or PM if you'd like it private.
I WILL be thinking of you
[center]" I know what it's like to want to die. How it hurts to smile. How you try to fit in but you can't. How you hurt yourself on the outside to try to kill the thing on the inside."
Hey guys, I just wanted to say thanks to everyone for the hugs and support. Everything went fine and everyone there was really friendly and made it a lot easier. Its not the nicest thing to go through but it wasn't as scary as it seemed and talking to someone afterwards made me realise just how lucky I was to have my bf there =)
I'm glad it went well.
I've never been through it personally, but a close friend of mine had an abortion a couple of months ago, and from her experiences I would strongly recommend that you have post-abortion counselling (if you're not already seeing a therapist). My friend turned down the offer of it initially, and had a wobbly few months, then found it really useful to start talking to someone and regretted she hadn't done it sooner.
Take care xxxx
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