Rant - Please help me... no one else will...

[laylay]

Ok, let me start from the beginning. I have three BEST friends, and they all know about my cutting because they were there when I was at my worst. But now I have this new friend. a guy, and i consider him to be one of my closest, if not the closest, guy friend i've ever had... and I need to tell him that I'm a cutter. I NEED to tell him. It' kills me every night knowing that i have to wake up in the morning and wear a jacket just so that he never finds out. He means soooooo much to me and i dread the day when he asks me, like everyone else has, "what happened to your arm?" or"why do you always wear a jacket?" because that's the day i will have to lie to him. He knows everything else about me, except that i SI and the reasons behind my SI. And i have never actually told anyone about this who hasn't done it themselves, people just usually find out, i've never actually sed anything. And since he's such a good friend, it should be no problem right? Wrong. His little sister tried cutting one time and he freaked out on her. He told me about it the next day and all I could say was... well... nothing! i just sed, "well, yelling at her isn't gona make her stop, it might even make it worse..." that's all i sed about it. that's all i could say because he doesn't know anything. i get so depressed when i think about how he doesn't know and how i want him to know, but even though i want to tell him, i want him to act like nothing happened after i tell him. get it? so please tell me how do i tell him? no one else is helping me with this and i feel so shitty...

[l'il esky]

oh hunni *huggles*
like you i havent actually come out and told a lot of people, once i told my friend at time, now best friend that i had done it (this was about a year ago) and then when it all flared up in about jan i just said you know what i told you when i was drunk..... and she filled in the rest. another person i told recently i text adn said now dont freak out but.....

however on reflection dont think this is the best idea, things get very confused over text.
maybe you could invite him over and warn him by saying i want to tell you something important but please hear me out. i want you to know cos your my closest friend. at least then he can try and prepare for something and also you can have a long chat, if he's got any questions. he might not be able to understand it but i sure he'd rather know cos it would prob break his heart if he thought you were hiding things from him.
good luck in whatever you decide, only suggestions
take care xx

[Mocha Happiness]

It's hard to tell people who haven't done it themselves.
And they never really fully understand it, but they want to help you.
I'm sure he'd rather know that side of you than have you lie to him.
I think you should warn him first before you tell him.
You shouldn't have to feel so bad for hiding this from him.
It's not as bad as you think it will be.
If he really cares about you, he'll try and understand.

[green.eyes]

maybe write a letter so you can explian properly?
or jsut try taking your jacket off and making it sound like not a big deal when he asks.
hopefully he will accept it as someting you need to do to get by right now.
good luck
xx

[im-loveli-rli]

i think the easiest way to tell someone is to warn them that you have something to say to them and you need them to know because you don't want to lie to them but you're not sure that they're going to like it. then go somewhere together where you can just talk, if you're happy with it tell him to ask you questions about it and be completely honest. guys normally want to help, if he offers tell him the best way to help you because there's nothing worse than a friend trying to help but, just annoying you.