Alone

[VampireLover200]

I am new to RYL. I joined looking for help. I can go forever and a day without SI when my husband is here. But he is in the military and it seems that anytime he has to go away, I go right back to SI. I need help. He isnt going to be coming back for qwite (cant spell) some time this leave, and im afraid cause ive already gone hog wild on SI in the short time he has been gone already. I just get so lonely and stressed out without him. He is my rock. Any suggestions on how to stay sain and not SI while he is away? I try to stay busy to keep my mind off of the loneliness but anytime stress pops up, I start again. Thanks for any help you can give!

-My lovers gone, his boots no longer by my door
He left at dawn, and as I slept I felt him go. -song

[effervescence]

staying busy is a good plan. do laundry, cleaning, paint a picture, make something, knit, sew, draw, make paper chains, bake cakes and give them to your neighbours, go out, window shop, meet people for coffee.
when you're alone and the urges come back, concentrate on the next time you will see him again. plan what you will do together. write him a letter. draw him a picture. put some music on and sing and dance around your room.
if you still need to cut, draw red lines on yourself with marker pen. snap rubber bands around your wrists. squeeze some ice cubes. punch a pillow. rip up paper.
if all else fails and you think you might really do some damage to yourself, reach out. to go a doctor, go to a friend. go to A and E if you need to.
hope this helped.....PM me if you ever need to.

[l'il esky]

oh sweetie *hug* set yourself small goals to get through without sh.
we are always here for support, pm whenever you just want a chat or distraction. i know how you feel, just me and my little hamster this end of the computer. take care and stay safe xxx