Daft boy problems

Ami · 22-04-2008, 09:50 PM

What does "more time" mean? I asked this guy out, and he said he needs more time, but we've already slept together, and he says he really likes me, and ive i got with anyone else, he'd be peeved off.

So does it really mean more time? Or is he just using me? I dunno! x

Ash* · 22-04-2008, 10:06 PM

No-one's really gonna be able to answer that but him,y'know?

Maybe,if you've slept together he felt like things were rushed or whatever and he wants to slow things down,get to know you and the like.

I don't think you should automatically assume that he's using you. Maybe,more time,means just that. More time.

Ami · 23-04-2008, 02:34 PM

cheers ash :)

i reckon im just wrapped up in the situattion so i need someone to point out the obvious really. i might ask.. x

RubberTree · 27-04-2008, 05:42 AM

Yeah he is just using you to get a quicky on the side. Its in your best interest to not get involved with him anymore.

Bleeding Angel · 27-04-2008, 10:32 AM

^^ Again you do not know the situation, so do not assum you are right, only ami knows the full story, and since this post is a few days old the situatuin may have changed now.

so how are things now?

Ami · 27-04-2008, 11:24 AM

Yeah it has Mari , he said he was going to ask next time he seen me, but someone else has asked too. But thats a different story!

Thanks for your help x

27-04-2008, 11:41 AM

Ask someone out before you sleep with them?.....

XxXflowerfairyXxX · 27-04-2008, 01:29 PM

Boys suck seriously.
No offense to the male population on RYL because you generally seem quite a nice bunch.
However, yeah guys are forever "needing more time" and "not wanting to be in a relationship".
Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't...you just have to see how it goes.

Ami · 27-04-2008, 05:48 PM

Well i think we might actually be together in a few days, so maybe he did just want to get to know me a bit ... x

howlie, · 27-04-2008, 06:17 PM

I think its up to you to decide

RubberTree · 29-04-2008, 07:45 AM

"^^ Again you do not know the situation, so do not assum you are right, only ami knows the full story, and since this post is a few days old the situatuin may have changed now."

Thinking like that is what got her in the situation in the first place. And me being a man means that I infact think through a male brain. I'm just telling the poor dear the truth for her own sake.

Isn't what I said the fail proof way to keep her safe and not get hurt? What I said is 100% the best way for any woman to go about a relationship in all cercumstances and that can't be argued with.
So I'd still drop the guy if I was you. Don't you want someone better? Someone who doesn't screw around with people he doesn't know? What makes you think that while you're dating him he won't do the horizantal mombo with some other new woman he meets?

Bleeding Angel · 29-04-2008, 02:24 PM

Excuse me, but you dont know its "the truth" and its not your situation to judge, unless your there and know whats going on. Besides i know a couple that started off with a one night stand and have been together years so dont judge anyone to your standards.

Ami how are things now after your last post, have/are you getting together?