I think really it is totally up to you how and when you talk about it. I had never told anyone and then it all spilt out at once to my CPN and then I refused to see him ever again, so I think maybe thats not the best way.
I think its important you talk to whoever you trust the most, my CPN was male and I didnt like him anyway so after I had told him I wasnt comfortable at all, I think you need to make sure that doesnt happen because you end up going backwards.
The
Abuse and Bullying Board might be helpful for you, they are all really lovely and might have experiences they can share with you :)
I hope you're ok,
take care
Aimee xx