Breaking up

Benjibum · 18-04-2008, 02:37 PM

Hey!
I feel like crap!
I have to break up with my girlfriend, and it is for the stupidest reason ever.

She is so happy, and she doesnt know about my SI and she doesnt know im always feeling so much like killing myself around her [its not her, its just who i am]

I kind of feel like im lying by pretending to be happy around her, and i cant bring myself to stop lying and be UNhappy around her...

Is that even a valid reason to break up with someone?

I am the biggest loser on earth.

MrsNutkin · 18-04-2008, 02:57 PM

I can see why you felt you had to break up with her but maybe you should try talking to your girlfriend? You may be suprized and find she understands.

She might need some time but you'll never know if it could have worked if you don't try.

All the best,
Syrup.

linder surprise · 18-04-2008, 03:09 PM

tell her before you break up with her.
odds are, she'll want to stay with you regardless of all that stuff. plus, it's just better to be in a relationship with someone who you can actually talk to about things in general.
if she doesn't understand, or if you still want to break up with her, then go for it.
but i think you need to tell her all this depression/si stuff first.

Silver Phoenix · 18-04-2008, 07:44 PM

Like others have said I'd suggest you talk to her first, she could be alot more understanding about it than you expect.

If you still feel the same way afterwards then just do whatever makes you happy

Benjibum · 20-04-2008, 06:37 AM

I just cant bear the thought of bringing her down though...

Whenever i hear people bitching about their problems and how sad they are and stuff, in my head im going "shut the **** up!"

And I know that thats what i'd do if i stopped pretending

LuckyStar · 20-04-2008, 10:48 AM

Pretending is never good, you're just gonna end up feeling worse in the end...
As everyone has said, I think you should try talkin' to your girlfriend and at least give her a chance to try to understand your situation. If you care about each other then you can get through this, together. I'm sure she'd appreciate your honesty.

Let us know how it goes, eh?

<3 Laura

Scumbelina · 20-04-2008, 03:53 PM

You're not a loser at all!

I can totally understand your reasons for wanting to protect her but you have to think of yourself too.

If you your relationship is worth anything then you'll work through this TOGETHER & your relationship will become stronger at the end of it.

toystoystoys · 21-04-2008, 09:49 PM

Maybe you should speak to her about it. She might be fine with it n want to help or she might know someone else who does it, she might not even be as happy as she seems. But I think you should find out what she says first as you might be throwing away your relationship for no reason. Hope that helps, good luck!