Triggering (SI) - Fading away

[darklainnie]

Well ..
I finally did it a few weeks ago I handed in my notice and I am moving to horsham in a few weeks time which i KNOW is a GOOD / POSITIVE thing!!!
So .. i hear you ask .. whats the problem ...
the problem is an hour after handing in my notice the offered the job to someone else, i have been here for FIVE feekin years ... that HURT! So for the last 2 weeks all I've done is fade further and further into the distance .. I knwo things will carry on with out me I know that BUT can't they just hold off until i go .. I AM STILL HERE!!!!!!
WHY AM I SO FEKKIN INVISIBLE?!?!?!?!??!
I just want someone to see me .. acknowledge me ...
I have no job to go to when I move aswell and i am totally out of control .. i want to harm .. but purely cos I knwo how to deal witht hat feeling .. it is comfortable ...
what do i want from this post? I dunno guess for someone to say they underastand i just feel so alone
Lane x

[willow]

It must have hurt. I understand that. They should have given you much more respect than that.

And you're not alone. It just feels that way. People here who've never met you, feel for you.

Hugsxx

[Merc]

It must feel like you have lost everything right now. Do you have a doc/couns? If so, please talk to them about this and ask for ideas and help. If not, i think it would be a good to try and find someone; you have alot happening right now and need and deserve some support.

I hope you can the strength to keep fighting for yourself, you ARE worth it
pls let us know okay?

romp

[Margo]

OK lets look at this a little differently.

Your old employers owe you no favours. They are running a business and therefore they need to fill posts ASAP when they become vacant. Its as simple as that. They offered your position because it was free, NOT because the undervalue you! There is no room for compassion within business. I am Positive that this was nothing to do with how they valued you.

I had very similar feelings when i fell ill in 05. They put one of my staff in my position weeks after i was signed off. He had been after my job ever since i appointed him. I took it really personally and totally devalued myself. But then i thought hold on.........the company doesnt revolve around me. They have jobs to do and my role was important and therefore needed to be filled immediately.

Try to think the same too! Your job is important to them also and thats why it was offered out so quickly! Try to take the personal aspect out of it and see it for what it really is.

Take care

Matthew xxx

[darklainnie]

thank you for all your replies guys ...
it means a lot to me ...
*takes notes*
Hugs to you all
Lane