Adult - an arson killed them

secret scars · 18-04-2008, 12:24 AM

well here i am asking for advice or just some support, today i realized that even though i thought i was over it and had delt with it the tragic end to my foster parents lives has not been delt with. let me tell you the story.

about 3 years ago there was an arson set fire to my foster parents house in claremont nh. i was not there but my foister sister was, it was late at night and though they lived right next door to the firestation the fire department took there sweet time getting there. once there my sis was on the front lawn screamin get my mom out get her out. well the fire chife told the men not to go in the fire had progressed too much so my sis sat and listened to our foster parents scream for help as they died and no one did a thing.

well the alarm went off at the group home today and they responded so fast. i got so mad i started balling. i wanted to start punching the fire fighters and the truk. how could they respond so fast to a false alarm that was so far from the statin but not make it next door to the station befor. and also i thought i was no longer in pain from these deaths

can anyone give me so support or advice why i felt such uncontrollable rage

DUNFERMLINEBOY · 18-04-2008, 03:14 AM

Heya,

Can in no way comprehend the grief that you've been through! The reason to why you're so angry isn't hard to see, why would they respond so quickly to a false alarm (even though there was no way they could've known this at the time) and yet leave your foster parents to succumb to the fire!

Is it possible that they were out on another call at the time of your house fire and that's why they took so long in reaching you, could there possibly have been the danger of a gas explosion or noxious fumes that couldn't allow them into the property quickly enough?
These are only suggestions off the top of my head! Was there not an inquest into the circumstances of the deaths that could perhaps give you some answers?
Maybey u still have some unresolved issues from the housefire and perhaps would be an idea to discuss it with a psychologist!

Really hope that this helps, and believe me my thoughts are with you!

Best Wishes,

Craig

Cazki · 18-04-2008, 03:30 PM

*Cuddles you* Im so sorry to hear what your going through, i cant begin to imagine what your going through and i cant begin to imagine how difficult this is for you. The only suggestion i have is that it must have been far to dangerous for them to enter the building. We are all here for you, you wont have to go through this all alone, because we are all here for you. My thoughts are with you at this really difficult time.

Take care best wishes Ian xxxxxxxxx

secret scars · 19-04-2008, 02:11 AM

thanks guys your ansers helped out

secret scars · 19-04-2008, 03:48 AM

well went over with some things with my counseler today and found out the worst news possable the arsonist never had to stand trial and is in a prison psyck ward till he is deemed sane that means he can be set freee tomarrow or mabe never. i am so upset to learn he was my foster parents lanlords son and had just moved to the area after he set fire to another house in manchester just days earlier. he should have been put to death. i hate him i hate the landlord and i hate the fire department.

DUNFERMLINEBOY · 24-04-2008, 04:07 AM

Am really glad that you've had chance to talk things over with your psychologist and i really hope that you can take that further to give yourself the chance to heal!

I know its hard but you can't necessarily blame the landlord for the actions of his son! Plus if he's in a psychiatric ward there must be reasons for that and perhaps the system failed that they didn't pick up on it sooner, maybey if they had things would have been different! although i know that that ll be cold comfort for ya!

My thoughts ll continue to be with ya, and let us know how your doing!

Best Wishes,

Craig