messed up **SI trigger**

[daisy*]

I messed up :( i had gone 4 months, then i ****ed up, then i went a week and 5 days, and i messed up :(

Both times that i have cut because i got into a fight with my bf.
i don't know why i posted this
sorry for waisting your time.

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[crazykat]

Hey sweetie
You didn't mess up, you had a slip up thats all. You tried your best and thats all that matters. You can try again. Remember recovery is a process and there is bound to be slip ups along the way. Take care
Kat xxx

[CrazyChaoticMess]

hun dont class it as a **** up, cuz slip ups area part of recovery, hey happen just stay strong and see how it goes x

[blondiebear]

You didn't mess up, especially if you can learn from it. Can you take time to think about what triggered you and if those times or triggers have anything in common?

[tamobhuuta]

you didn't mess up, going 4 months and then almost two weeks is really good. no one would expect us to get it perfectly right. maybe you could look at what lead to you cutting, like blondiebear said, and see how you might tackle the same problem next time. my therapist does the same with me and it can really help.

[Cazki]

Hiya there *Cuddles you* Going four months without self harming is excellent. You have to remember that slipping up is part of recovery and that we all have slip ups but this doesnt mean that you have failed and that you should give up on recovering. Do you think you could talk to us some more about what lead you to slip up? Did something trigger you? Do you know what it is thats caused you to slip up? Please dont give up you can beat this, i know you may be dissapointed with yourself thats understandable but please dont beat yourself up due to the fact that you slipped up.

Please dont be so hard on yourself as it will make things alot more complicated for yourself. You can get throough this, we are all here for you so you dont have to go through this on your own. Do you have anyone that you could confide in that you talk to about this with? Do you have any support at all? Im sorry that things are so painful for you right now, but you can get through this, please dont let this slip up stop you from recovering. Try to keep yourself distracted as much as you possibly can.

There are lots of distractions that you can try. These include listening to music, doing jobs to keep yourself busy, watching a movie, posting on the fun and distractions forum going for a walk, or wriitng down your thoughts and feelings. If you felt that it would help you perhaps you could consider trying to write down your thoughts and feelings in the form of a diary? This link also has lots of other distractions that you could try http://www.recoveryourlife.com/forum...ead.php?t=1403 i hope that it is of some help to you. Please be gentle with yourself and take things in small steps. Keep talking to us.

Take care best wishes Ian xxxxxxxx

[daisy*]

thanks everybody! ...i dunno what triggers me, i guess just being angry and stressed? I can usally get past the urges if i'm alone, or not fighting with my bf, or anyone else, when i get angry i can't stop myself :( Thanxs for all the replys
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[Aplus]

Do anti depressing things like Walking, taking a bath.. Anything that relieves stress is good. If you have stress with other things best try and push them aside for now while you help yourself recover :). If you extend it four months every time you'll be in the clear in no time.