Well first of all i want to say sorry if this isn't the right place for this.
I think i just need sombody to tell me i'm not wierd about this, my boyfriend has told me i'm not but, hes my bf he has to tell me things are okay :P
anyways, a long time b4 i was born acually it was 12 years b4 i was born my mom had a little boy with a different man then who is my father. The little boy died, he was still born but wouldn't have been able to survive anyways because it was too early in the pregnancy. If this boy had lived he would have been my half brother. (although i think if he had survived my mom would have stayed with that man, and i don't think i would have been born) I don't really remember when my mom told me about this brother i [should] have had. But I have ALWAYS felt like this bond between us. I'v always felt superrr close to him i don't even no why, sometimes i'll just cry because i miss him, yet i never met him or was around for my moms pregnacy or anything..
im not really sure why i posted this... is this normal?
Last edited by daisy* : 10-04-2008 at 05:51 PM.
Reason: spelling
I'm pretty sure that if I learnt that I had a brother/sister who was born before myself, and unfortunately never survived, I would feel something. I'd constantly wonder who they would be, what they would do, stuff like that. So I'd say, yeah, I'd say it's normal.
Also, I've kinda experienced that before. My mom only told me around 5 years ago that I had a brother. My mom had him was she was 16, and had to give him up for adoption, and only had just found him 5 years ago. I had never met him, by accident or on purpose, but as soon I was told, I felt a connection. I've now met him several times, see him few times a year, he has a daughter - my niece - and yeah. It's perfectly fine :D
Before I was born my mum was pregnant with a girl who was to have my name - tragically her 1st husband pushed her down the stairs & she lost the baby. I often wonder what would have happened if this girl had've been born - & if I would've been born as she would've already had a girl with my name!
As Dream said - you are completely normal for wondering about this little boy who would've been your brother.
Maybe you could set aside a few minutes in a little tribute to him - just light a candle & say a little prayer for him (if you believe in that sort of thing)
I have felt a bond between me and who would have been my little brother. It was only a year after I was born. It was a miscarriage but still, there is this bond, I mean, he WAS to be my brother, so yeah I understand completely :) Plus I feel the same with my unborn child who died 2weeks ago. A slightly different situation but yeah.. sadness all the same
