i just wrote loads and it got deleted so i'll have to start again now!
arghhhhhhhhhhhhh! last night two of my mates had an argument it was dan and nick! dans my ex bf and hes also one of my best mates.
dan and nick now hate each other
im stuck in the middle
nick told me i shouldnt ever speak to dan again i totally ignored him because dans one of my best mates and i couldnt do that to him!
nick just asked me if i had spoken to him and obviously i told the truth and said yes i have been speaking to him then nick was like you never listen to me and then said cya and now he wont speak to me
wtf? i have to chose between them i cant do that
nick is so perthectic why cant he handle the fact that im friends with dan
Tell Nick that just because you friends with Dan doesn't mean you can't be friends with him. They are two seperate friendships. The only common factor is you. They dont have to see each other or talk to each other so where is the problem?
Have you tried saying anything along those lines to Nick? The other reason why he might be doing it is because he might feel like Dans not really a good friend to you and he's trying to look out for you? (Just trying to see it from both points of view, dont know either of them so could be completly wrong with everything I said. Just trying to help!)
yeah i think your right about nick trying to look out for me because he feels dan isnt a good friend to me.
the thing is there not really seperate friends because we all hang out together at college and stuff, i think either dan or nick are going to very reluctant to be part of the group. and people wont like that because were all really good friends its going to break up all the friends.
Is there anyway of them sorting it out? Maybe tell them both that them not getting on effects the whole group and if they can tolerate each other for a few hours a day (or however long) then it will be better/nicer for the group. And you don't want the group breaking up.
I've been in the situation before but it was actually me involved (i.e not liking someone) but for the sake of everyone else I didn't make a big deal out of it.
