How Do I Stop Being So Clingy? *Mentions SI*

Sofie · 13-06-2007, 07:50 PM

This is causing some problems for me as it is ruining what was once a happy friendship.

In November last year, a friend of mine found out about my SI and comfronted me about it, which I wasn't happy about. A few weeks later, I tried to explain some things to him (he doesn't have a clue about SI and I thought it was a good idea to try and explain why I act the way I do) and he said that if I was having problems, just let him know and he'll try his best to talk to me - but can't promise anything as he has a job and a (now) 2 year old son to look after and a wife. After this, we were constantly arguing and I suggested that we go on a break for a bit and he told me no because he ca't trust me enough - which I wasn't too happy about.

After this, we were constantly arguing and he decided that he couldn't deal with the way I was and kept telling me that he was going to block me on MSN - which I was never happy with and would constantly email him telling him that I really needed him to help me. (which I did need most of the time)

He decided at one point that he was going to take what was nearly a 2 month break fro me, which I wasn't happy with. After this, he was acting as though nothing happened.

My problem is that I always want attention from him and seem to get really angry/upset when he won't talk to me.

is there any way I stop acting this way? It seems that he's the only person I'm like this with.

Saerie · 14-06-2007, 11:03 AM

Hmm, tricky.
It isn't fair on him that you're depending on him for all the support you need.
Do you have a councellor to talk to? See your GP.
That could take some of the weight off your friend.
Good luck!

Sofie · 14-06-2007, 02:29 PM

No. In one way, I think he's made it worse by telling me that he'd talk to me. (I think he sent me an email at some point during the last few months telling me that he doesn't always want to talk to me)

Saerie · 14-06-2007, 03:48 PM

Hmm, try to get someone proffessional to talk to if you can :)

_Cadence_ · 14-06-2007, 04:14 PM

hey, i was in a similar situation recently. it didn't really work out well, so i won't tell you how i handled it ;) as Saerie said, maybe talking to a professional would help. i hope it works out!

raistlin · 14-06-2007, 05:08 PM

My situation didn't work out well either... But there is still hope. As mentioned above, talking to a professional would probably help. Hope ya get it figured out soon.

88shelz · 14-06-2007, 05:11 PM

i am very clingy as well and always expect my bf to be around to listen, unfortunately ,we cant expect them to be there for us all the time. i dont know how to overcome it. i have just learned to distract myself and wait til i need him the most!!

Bleeding Angel · 14-06-2007, 07:13 PM

its hard, but you have to talk to someone to help deal with things. I was like that with my friend, but after a while he didnt speak to me for 6/7 months, and it took me a long time to get over that, then he suddenly started talking to me like nothing happend.

Now things arnt so great between us and im considering not talking to hom for a bit.

maybe you should consider having a break from him?

Sofie · 14-06-2007, 07:16 PM

I did have a break from him for about a week (actually it was nearer 2 as he was far too busy to talk to me), but found it hard and always have done.

kylebaumgardner · 02-07-2010, 11:06 PM

it will be ok cuz you can't be worse then me . trust me I was called crazy cuz of it.

Katiee · 03-07-2010, 04:20 PM

That must be a really difficult situation.
Prehaps give him a bit of time and he'll start talking to you soon?
Hope you get it all worked out soon. x

random.swirls · 03-07-2010, 09:48 PM

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