A little trouble.

[Aki]

As always, if any of my friends are on here, please don't continue reading.







Well, at the moment I'm having problems with repressing anger. I'm getting kind of angry at certain poeple because of things and not telling them and holding everything in while smiling and seeming fine outside.
I woke up today and my hands were shaking uncontrollably. It's continued nearly all day except from when I was walking around. Right now it's getting worse as I'm getting really annoyed with a person and don't want to tell them because they'll get annoyed or upset with me if I do, but I feel like I'm going to explode. It's over a stupid thing of them saying their opinion on a subject which I thought they would say something else about and it surprised and upset me that they weren't supporting one of my other friends in this, but a completel stranger (so much for loyalty, I'm thinking). My hands are shaking badly again and I'm getting a bit worried about how repressing this anger is going to come out.... I mean, I had to snap a pencil into pieces earlier, then draw a picture and colour it, then drink herbal tea to try and calm down because I was so agitated (it made for good art though :)).
Basically, I'm just not confident enough to express my anger towards people. I'm holding it all in and it's starting to actually have a visible effect on my body (aside from the fact I'm depressed).
I was just wondering if there was anyway to stop the effects other than releasing the rage, or a way to release the rage at somehting other than people.
Thanks!!

[88shelz]

holding all your anger in wont help you or anyone else.
find a way to let it out without dangering yourself or others.
xx

[Aki]

I'm just not sure how, is all ^^" Punching pillows or screaming into them doesn't work for me...

[Relentlessrockstar1986]

I'd say write it all down if you're in a state where you'd be able to. If you find you're too upset to do that, go take a walk, have a few deep breaths and then try. If you find yourself wanting to send what you've written to that person, I'd say go for it. It's not a bad thing for them to know they've upset you, but keep in mind they might get upset as well and react badly for a short while. Just tell them that you had to get it out, and they should thank you for letting them know.
Hopefully you'll find that writing is easier, as you don't have to be face to face. :) And then you should slowly feel more able to tell people things.

[Aki]

Ahh, thank you very much :) Taking walks is a good idea, I think.
Thank you!! ^^

[green.eyes]

write it down and then rip the paper up.
throw things at your walls
scream
go for a run

other than that i think you need to try to express some of your anger at the time rather than bottling it up. maybe start really small. just say something like 'i don't agree with you but you're entitled to your opinion' or 'that was harsh'- friends are allowed to disagree and get pissed off at each other without it being a mjaor argument- if you try to talk calmly about why you're angry or hurt then it might not come out so physically later.
take care
xx