Triggering (SI) - what's the f***ing point!???

null_n_void · 12-06-2007, 04:15 PM

Really... what is the point?

I try to help people, but how can I help people when I can't help myself.

One of the people who I care about in the world is having such a bad time and I wish there was something I could say or do to help... I can't....

I wish I could say something right or do something right... I can't

I'm sorry... this is me..

pathetic

Bleeding Angel · 12-06-2007, 04:24 PM

Since im spamming SD right now, i have to spam this as well dont i :P

First of all you have to concentrate on yourself too, thats the most important thing.

It doesnt mean you are pathetic, if you feel you cant help, people have to make thier own choices and their own mistakes, you have to rember none of its your responsibilty or fault.

null_n_void · 12-06-2007, 04:27 PM

here's the problem: If I concentrate on myself, I'm gonna feel crap for doing so. It is my fault if something happens.... It is my responsibility is something happens. I can't lose anymore people that i love and care about... I've lost too many f***ing people to have that happen again....

Bleeding Angel · 12-06-2007, 04:32 PM

But everyone has to stop and take care of themselfs, its a fundementaly thing, you cant look after other people without loking after yourslef aswell.

Its not your fault if something happens, you dont control me, you dont have any control over my actions or what i do, therefore its not your fault or responsibilty.

You have to stop worrying and putting yourself down, and start to look after you

Greyscale · 12-06-2007, 07:42 PM

Alright, you need to relax and take some time for you. Maybe take a day where you just hang out with a close friend, go to the shops, have your hair done; just take some time for you. You can't support others without sometimes getting support for yourself. I went through a phase where I didn't care about myself, just others, and to put it lightly, it didn't turn out well. If you find it hard to get support for yourself, everyone on here is probably willing to support you. If you ever want to talk, I'm just a PM or IM away. xx Laura

Jasmine222222 · 12-06-2007, 07:45 PM

I just wanted to let you know I understand how you feel; i always feel crushed by responsibility for other people, even if those people can't stand me. No matter how much some people snub me, I'm still checking into their lives and trying to help them out from afar, so they don't know its me.

All this means is that you are a good person. Deep down you are a very good person, and the fact that you think otherwise also makes you a humble person. I agree with the others, relax! You'll be ok.