I have two hamsters Sassy (1) and Sonic (6 months). I found out a few days ago that Sonic has Wet Tail. A fatal disease that kills hamsters. The shock of the while situation didn't hit until yesterday and this morning when I thought he was dead because he wasn't moving. I am cutting more during the day now because I can't handle grief or death. Especially the death of a pet. I have only had him for two weeks and he is sick. I feel like I am a failure to my poor pet. That if I would have done something different he wouldn't be sick. I have tried listening to music, crying and writing but nothing is working except cutting my arms. I want my hamster to live, I don't want him to go but it is the sad reality people have told me, he won't make it. I want to have someone to grieve with me but it seems like everyone else in the house doesn't care about Sonic or the fact that I am in pain. Just remembering him running on his wheel all night or having fun with me in his little rolley ball ....
I get very, very upset whenever an animal or pet I care about gets poorly.
Wet Tail is a severe condition and does sadly in near enough all cases end in death.
HOWEVER..... you could not have done anything that would have stopped him from getting poorly with this and I'm sure from what you have said, he was very, very well cared for, and he was clearly mega loved.
Sometimes people don't get upset about animals, especially the smaller ones - hamsters, guinea pigs, fish etc, however when they are YOURS and when you care so much for them, it hurts. It really hurts.
With Wet Tail he won't be happy, and it isn't a case of anything you can do, because there is no cure, and unfortunately as awful as it is, the answer is often that they will pass away. However, try to think that he won't be suffering anymore, he will be in Hamster Heaven, he will be a peace.
I would just say though, are they in the same cage or close to one another (close close) as wet tail can be passed on, and so if they are in the same cage it is really important that you either move Sassy out or disinfect the cage.
Take care of yourself, and try not to resort to cutting. It won't make Sonic better, and it won't help you really.
You need to be able to grieve for the little hamster and unfortunately there is no easy way of doing that. It just takes time. You hold onto the good memories and try to take comfort in the fact he won't be suffering anymore. xxxxx
-“And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to bloom.” Anais Nin-
Allie, Mutt, Great Grandma, Hope and Humbug. I love you and miss you all. xx
Sassy is accross the room from Sonic, I know that Wet Tail is contagious to other hamsters. I know that he wouldn't be in pain anymore, and I don't want him in pain, it breaks my heart. But I had so many plans for the two of us, like getting him a HabiTrail like Sassy has and marveling at his beautiful color and stuff. Its like my brain can't comprehend the fact that he is lying on his death bed...
Hiya there im very sorry that your having such a difficult time right now. *Gives you a big hug* i know that what your going through isnt easy but it doesnt mean that you cant get through this. Do you have any support at all? (If you have one) have you spoken to your counseller how your feeling? Its not your fault that one of your hamsters is ill. I know you feel its your fault but its not, please try not to be hard on yourself as this often tends to make things worse. Its understandable to be upset but its certainly not your fault. You have done your best to look after him and care for him you did your best you cant do anymore than that.
You can get through this please dont give up please keep fighting through this. Things wont be like this forever, things will get better. Be gentle with yourself try not to be too hard on yourself as that will only create problems. We are all here for you and we will support you for as long as you need it. We all care about you so much. I know its incredibly difficult when your feeling really low but we are here to support you ok.
No one wants to see you get hurt anymore than what you already are, that includes me other people here, and your friends and family. I know that things are not good for you now but they wont always be like this. Have you thought about writing down your thoughts and feelings? Its important that if you do decide to write down your thoughts and feelings that you combine both the positive things and the negative things together so that you dont end up writing down just the negative things on there own. Make sure that you keep safe, none of us want to see you get hurt any more than what you already are you dont deserve it.
Please keep distracting yourself as much as you possibly can, there are lots of things that you can try here are some of them, listening to music, doing jobs to keep you busy, watching a movie, going for a walk and posting on the fun and distractions forum. Please keep talking to us, you dont have to go through this all on your own, we are here for you. Please take care its important that you look after yourself.
Take care best wishes Ian
Last edited by Cazki : 14-03-2008 at 06:13 PM.
Reason: Took out irrelevant part to do with oding which i had put in by mistake
I have tried everything. I would NOT od, believe me, i am going to talk to my old therapist though, because this is VERY hard for me to deal with. Thank you guys for being so supportive. You guys are great.
Sorry about that i didnt mean to put that in my post im very sorry. Iv taken the oding part out now as it was irrelevant i made a mistake putting it in.
If it helps any I had a hamster who had wet tail and he lived through it... I know how fatal it is but there is always a chance he'll make it..... I'm sorry that he's suffering I know how hard it can be to lose an animal... I am sorry..... Keep safe.
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Thank-you, well...an hour ago Sonic passed away, he ended up bleeding really really bad out of a place he shouldn't. I held him, talked to him, and cried with him as he died. I am slowely trying to deal with it, but the dissociation that I am feeling is overwhelming. I had to cut earlier to get myself back and to let some of the pain out. I am cutting at least once every couple of hours. I can't help it, I need to get myself back to reality. Everything I see now reminds me of him and how short a life he had...
Sorry to hear that he passed away, and I know that I won't be able to say anything to make it better right now, it's only time that will do that.
TRY hard not to cut.
Take care of yourself. xxxxxxx
-“And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to bloom.” Anais Nin-
Allie, Mutt, Great Grandma, Hope and Humbug. I love you and miss you all. xx
I am so sorry to hear that. I know how hard it is to lose a pet. Please try and distract yourself from cutting though....at least keep safe please.... again I am so sorry.
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Sweetheart I am so sorry! You are not alone in feeling so much grief. 2 years ago my cat, who I had for 10 years, got cancer and dies 2 weeks after we took him to the vet. I did pretty much the same thing you are doing now. You are hurting, that's natural. It's important to remember all the good things that the 2 of you did together.
I am so sorry for your lose
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Thank-you guys sssooo much. I am trying to do other things instead of cutting like taking a piece of looseleaf and drawing a whole bunch of "x"s on it. If I feel really really bad then I make the "x"s really dark. Depending on how bad I'm feeling it usually keeps me from cutting but it doesn't work all the time. Night time is the hardest time though dealing with the death of Sonic and thats when I usually resort to cutting myself.
Glad you have been trying to distract yourself, that's fab.
Like Zivalover16 said, see if you can try to be around people in the evening time as you may be less likely to do something when you are with people. xxxxx
-“And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to bloom.” Anais Nin-
Allie, Mutt, Great Grandma, Hope and Humbug. I love you and miss you all. xx
I sleep with my boyfriend but sometimes I can't sleep and I feel really really alone. Also my god-parents are having problems with their relationship so talking to them isn't really that helpful and sometimes being around them can trigger me.
I can understand that if things are difficult it can have an impact on you, and makes it a little difficult, but I am sure that they would want to help in anyway that they can. However, I can understand why you don't really kind of. Yeah, I know what you mean anyway.
As for your boyfriend, does he know the way you are feeling??
xxxxx
-“And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to bloom.” Anais Nin-
Allie, Mutt, Great Grandma, Hope and Humbug. I love you and miss you all. xx
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