Much needed help...!!!!

[Beyond the Starz]

Ok.. i really need some advice here...

Well i have an older sister whos 19 years old and i guess you can say her teenage years were kind of boring seeing she was the type to not really have many friends and when she did they screwed her over..but recently she just broke up with her boyfriend whom she was dating for two years straight. That was a big surprize to everyone seeing she was in *love* with him.
But anyways we've been noticing some major mood changes. Like for one she used to be the type of girl who would set challenges or she'd know what she wanted and went for it like nothing else mattered. Now all she has to say towards life is "you live then you die". Like her whole perspective on life just immidiatly (sp) changed instinitly.(after her and her bf broke up..)
So her new hang out spot is the beach.. but not the local one... the one thats about 40-45 minutes away..why who knows...but either way we already know from talking to her friends that the only reason why she goes there is to *meet* guys. And we found this one out last night straight up..
So she went to the beach last night...hour late on her curfew...(so we had one of her friends come over to see if he could help us find her...deadly afraid something bad happened seeing she always calls when shes going to be late or whatever.) He came over told us that the girl she went to the beach with called her boyfriend to pick her up there because my sister left her on the beach while she went on some random boat with a couple of guys.... but of course thats not all... My sister ended up calling the friend who was over our house and told him to meet her at a gas station to see if she smelled like alcohol... (YES SHE DROVE TO A GAS STATION WHICH WAS 45 MINUTES AWAY DRUNK)..how she made it there nobody knows..so we played it off that he would meet her..so Me, the friend, and her exboyfriend went to pick her up...oh godd...
Well we got there and she had her bikini on looking a mess...(everything hanging out literally)
So we found a number of one the guys on the boat...called em..i played off being her...and from what i got out of him is that she had random sex with about two or three of the guys on the boat....
And from the way she was acting last night she was deffintily doing more than drinking because ussually when your drunk your hyper..she was more mellow than anything else..so of course she was high on something...

** If you were in this scenario what would you do...we tried calling a hosp. to get her help but seeing shes 19 theres not much we can do...**
** This also isnt the first time this happened...(DWI))

[_inevermetanothergemini_]

Have you tried talking to her about it?
xxx

[Beyond the Starz]

Yeah and alls he does..is swears that shes fine and theres nothing wrong with her... like she doesnt even care that she put everyones life in jeapordy driving home last night..and its not like she only had like mayb one beer although that still doesnt make it right to drive...she was hammered..terriably....i just really wish i could help my mom out..she really doesnt know what to do...

[raistlin]

I think that's great that your family is trying to help her. But unfortunately, things won't change unless she realizes she needs the help. I know that's hard to let someone you love destroy themselves. Keep letting her know that you are all there for her, care about her, love her.
Perhaps, you can get one of those cheesy movies on how many people drunk drivers kill innocent people, ones that have interviews with the innocent persons family or one on std's with personal interviews of the lives those people have to live now, things like that.
I hope your sister realizes soon what she is doing is not only hurting herself but her family as well.

[Beyond the Starz]

Yeah... i know what your saying..i really do wish there was something we could do...and plus the whole having sex with random guys doesnt help much either..ya know?..and the drugs.. i just dont know what to do..

[raistlin]

Yeah, I know it's hard to deal with. But just make sure you are staying safe yourself and focusing on the things you need to do in your life.. work, school, anything like that.