Just write a letter here to yourself, at the age of 13. In hindsight, what would you say to you?
I'll write one in a bit, I just thought i'd make the thread now..
So..
Dear 13 year old self...
[This might be better in F&D so feel free to move it]
"Be nice. Think happy thoughts. Champion silver linings. Love all things (not just cute things like babies and kittens) & when you do love - love like they do in power ballads (you know like on a cliff with the wind in your hair and your eyes shut, knowing you'll never know love like this). Watch out for dog poo. Smile at people - even grumpy ones. Remember anything is possible & whatever you do always try to look on the bright side."
Stop now.
Stop drinking.
Stop taking drugs.
Don't sleep with that person.
&& For gods sake stop cutting yourself.
Treat your mother with some ****ing respect.
Infact, grow up you ****ing freak.
Stop being a ****. Really. Go and make friends, join those sports teams, you can make friends there as well. C and M are horrid friends, so leave them whilst you can. And when you think about 'experimenting' with pain. Don't. Just, don't. You'll save your older self a lot of hassle.
And for God's sake, do some WORK. STUDY. REVISE. Get the GCSE's that reflect your intelligence, k? And have fun. Don't let the boys get to you and ENJOY LIFE.
Dear 13 year old Nat.
Yes, you are gay, deal with it. It's cool.
Stop hating yourself so much, life gets better and you pull well fit ladies.
Don't even think about cutting yourself, you mong. It isn't good and you'll still be doing it when you get to my age!
Gain some self respect, don't let people take advantage of you.
Put down the cake and do some exercise.
Be a 13 year old. Don't try to grow old before your time. Don't start getting pissed every night. You're really f*cking intelligent so don't waste it. Learn to appreciate your sisters, they turn out alright xD.
Respect yo' mother, respect yo' father.
Get the dog some f*cking training.
Stop listening to Blue and Hearsay.
Kthnxbye.
Dear 13-year-old Zed
Stay exactly the way you are right now
Don't speak to anybody about anything
Do NOT trust anybody, please
Stay away from sharp things and don't you dare think about hurting yourself
Be true to yourself and for God's sake, if you ever think about killing yourself, make sure it actually works.
Yes, you're a lesbian darling, don't fight it any longer, just trust me and accept it, it's cooool
Oh and never tell 'her' how you feel
And and and start drinking alcohol darling, please, you need to lighten up
19-year-old Zed
The only time you will find real light is when you're searching in the dark..
Just step out & be a bit more confident, you'll feel better & make more friends that way.
Keep doing your school work & homework like you are now - don't give up when it comes to GCSE or A-Level, your grades will appreciate your consistency.
When you meet A, don't put her on a pedestool quite so much - you have other friends, rely on them too. When you're 18 you won't even be speaking to her. & don't even think about trying self harm because you learn that she does it - it's not okay, it's an addiction, & you'll still be dealing with that in 5 years from now. & your mum will get the idea from you & try it a couple of times as well.
Don't argue too much with your mum, dad or sister - they're lovely & will be a good source of support, etc, to you in the future if ever you need it.
Make sure you save some money when you get to having EMA - it'll be useful when you need to buy a laptop for uni.
Don't go to Chichester University, it's small & you won't enjoy it very much.
Go to [insert address here] & meet Dani =]
Don't get into all of that mental health stuff - it's not a good idea. You'll wreck your life.
Don't comfort eat or anything, do regular exercise with Kirsty & make sure you eat healthily.
Just look after yourself, everything will be okay.
Oh, & don't bother with the Christianity - you'll realise that it's a load of rubbish in a couple of years & just end up being left-out.
18 year old Luce x
P.S. I would say just do all of this to make you who you are, but you don't turn out very well, so don't (Y).
Last edited by Accidentally Abstract : 24-01-2008 at 02:29 AM.
Reason: Adding a P.S.
I could say stop what you're doing and completly change the direction your life is going. but im going to leave that decision up to you.
Either carry on the way you're going. you will end up being hurt by your friends, you will end up cutting yourself a lot, you will end up ODing and ending up in hospital. But you will get some help eventually, and you will meet some fabulous people along the way. Some who are so awesome, I wouldn't want you to miss out on knowing them.
Or you could change. Stop all the **** you're putting yourself through just now. Stop blaming other people for everything, take some responsibility for yourself, go out their and live your life. There is so much you could do. Stop doubting yourself, especially with your art, and do something. You're clever, so don't throw that all away.
The decision is yours, please make the right one. And do me a favour, go and be nice to your sister. She does get better, and you'll learn to love her.
lots of love,
17-year old steph. xx
Dear 13 year old me,
Dont live in fear of him... face up to him... tell him he hurts you mentally, tell him you want him to be happy and not blame you for everything. Dont let popele make decisions for you. Make them yourself and learn to be happy even though its hard.
Dont start going down the wrong path.. dont start becoming isolated because she died. Love yourself and in later life you wont feel so bad. Dont make bad friendships and dont depend on others.. learn to communicate and dont live your life through others.
But most of all dont feel the need to want to disappear. Be brave and tell people what you feel, start with your family otherwise.. you will regret every single year since you were born. Just be happy.
Love 21 year old you xx
I WILL FORGET THOSE THAT HAVE HURT ME
BUT I WILL NEVER FORGET THOSE WHO ARE ALWAYS THERE TO HELP ME
Dear 13 year old Charlie.
All the penis in the world can never *make* you straight.. deal with it.. its not so bad liking the lady loving.
Also.. eat you fool.
Your parents are going to split up, and times are going to be hard.. but you know what.. you get through the other side.
One day you'll see that lifes not so bad.. maybe you should start learning it sooner rather than later so that you dont miss out on 6 years of your life.
dear 13 year old me,
be happy, appreciate your family, they love you. ignore your friends, they know nothing about you.
embrace the world. it's amazing, you'll see.
Dear 13 year old self,
Right den mrs You've not gonna start this **** got it your first time was an experiement stop it now. it'll **** you up i'm telling you.
Make up with dad and leave that bloody webcam alone you whore.
Can't you see the lads only want you as a bit of fun on there.
Leave BFs to your older and NEVER even think your gay It wont work out bitch.
Ditch emily!!!! I know you need her but just fricken ditch her shes trouble!!!.
I'm telling you please do not cut your arms again you'll end up with fu*ked up arms and you wont be able to wear sleeves i'm telling you.
Loose weight. do u really wanna end up with back problems and do you really wanna be 16 stone at 16.
Do all you can btw to suceed in your chosen career do volentry work
I wouldn't change a thing about anything. Do what you want, go wild, have some fun. Just, go where you want to go, and be who you want to be. If you go the **** way then you'll just come out of it in 5 years time and be a much better person for it.
One thing though: Stick with M. He's a lovely person and he'll make you really happy. You'll learn a lot from him, and him from you, and just, don't ever give up on him, okay?
Do not become friends with Nadine and that group.They hurt you in the past and they will hurt you again.Be who you want to be because those that are your friends will stick by you, the rest are just jealous.You will have a few mental issues by the time you are 16 but these will make you a stronger person.Dont worry about exams, you will pass the ones you need to for the course of your dreams.
also start eating onions as it makes buying any ready meals, sauces and going out for dinner really difficult :p
Dear 13 year old me,
Grow up and get a backbone. Seriously are you going to let them tell you what to do forever. And the're not worth it anyway. Seriously go and meet some new people or you'll be stuck with these people for ever and they won't stop putting you down.
Your dad is a waste of space, rember that. And Carol is a loser as well. Please don't try to be nice to her. Remember she was the reason your mum was in tears. And she'll ignore you no matter what you do.
The world won't end if you say something or even don't do your homework for once. Years from now you'll regret being so timid and can you explain what you gained from colouring worksheets you know aren't going to be collected.
Oh and finally no matter how much you love your brother you're only three years older than him and not his mother. It's not your job to help with his homework, or check he's had lunch or make sure he's happy.
Whatever you do. Do not turn into 15 year old Jessica.
Please Please sort yourself out.
Monarkh is my lovely big sister. PunkyFairy07 is my wonderful mama. Starbright is my crazy eccentric Auntie. i-used-to-be-positive is my bunch of roses big sister LostDaisy is my shooting star BinkyDonkey is my ex-wife little_unicorn is my great great grandmother Concrete angel is my OddClubLady Domicile of madness is my wonderful purple sheep Zedmeister is the one who gives me faith
Co owner of Judas the super Doberman puppy
Don't put yourself down so much, you're a nice kid. No, you may not be one of the popular kids, but that won't matter in the future. Don't try so much to fit in, it will only bring you more hurt.
Don't try so hard to bock out those feelings. Numbing them will lead to worse feelings than those you have right now. Don't trust people just because they have authority, in fact treat that as a reason to steer clear.
From Liz at 26.
PS: Eat something. Don't spend the next 13 years starving yourself.
This year you'll start something new. It won't be fun and you won't be able to stop yourself. Because you can't. You think it helps. It will teach you more about yourself and others than you ever knew existed. You'll meet new friends because of it. And maybe see who your true friends have been along the way. But never hurt yourself because of it. When you're older you'll see how far it's brought you. How it's shaped you to be how I am now. You won't be the most confident person in the world. You'll be insecure, paranoid. But you'll be able to be strong enough to stop the pain. Maybe not to start with. Maybe not for a very long time. But I know you'll be able to do it. Don't look on it as a burden. But as a blessing for it's lessons. It won't be with you forever. So don't deny it. Or hold it in. But fight it as much as you can.
You'll lose friendships you never thought you would. You'll lose people in ways you never thought possibly, but don't deny them. Don't live your life in disbelief or repression, trust me, it hurts so much more later on.
Just live your life. I won't tell you not to meet this person, or not to do this, because it's all experience. And as long as you take the best lessons from what you can, then that's all that matters. x
P.S Never be afraid to cry. Seriously.
P.P.S Do your ****ing work. Seriously girl just get a grip sometimes. You KNOW it will be worth it int he end. So listen to your gut instinct sometimes.
"Be nice. Think happy thoughts. Champion silver linings. Love all things (not just cute things like babies and kittens) & when you do love - love like they do in power ballads (you know like on a cliff with the wind in your hair and your eyes shut, knowing you'll never know love like this). Watch out for dog poo. Smile at people - even grumpy ones. Remember anything is possible & whatever you do always try to look on the bright side."
Dear 13 year old Daisy,
You've actually already experienced most of the things that are gunna be the foundations of your troubles.
Stop cutting yourself while it's still not too bad because in a few months time it's gunna get worse and worse.
Get the hell away from that girl now.
I know you think you 'love' her.
But tbh you're just gunna feel awful about it every time you think about it in the future.
It will literally make you sick to your stomach.
If you dump her (instead of what will happen otherwise) then maybe you won't spend a year with absolutely no friends.
DON'T get with Kieran on a rebound.
Then don't cheat on him 3 times.
Just hold out for Daniel and don't screw it up.
They'll hate you for it at first, but they get over it trust me. (Coz I am you)
And if you do mess it up with Dan, don't then start drinking and smoking all the time and thinking you're cool.
Don't have sex with anyone else until you're completely ready and deffs not Dec.
Because otherwise guys are gunna start thinking you're easy and then you'll get all mistrusting and confused about their motivations.
You'll be lonely.
You have some wonderful people in your life, keep them close.
Ly x
Listen to what she tells you
show her how much you love her
She is right when she says its better to be yourself
But most of all DO NOT under any circumstance go to London Next Summer
because she won't come back
Be yourself even if it means standing out from the crowd and being a bit "quirky" because you have your own mind and you shouldn't be afraid to show how unique you are just because other people dont like it.
Get help now
Don't let things get worse
Or you will spend the best time of your life
when you have more friends than ever before in hospital falling apart.
Start talking to Emilleh now don't leave it till your 15 and only have 1 year before your banned from seeing her. its going to break your heart but talk to people and don't keep it all inside because it will kill you.
Use your mind
don't let teachers push you into things that arent you
don't be afraid to work in different ways to others its what makes your art special and its whats going to get you places in this world.
From katy at 17
Last edited by Popple : 08-01-2009 at 04:43 PM.
You're entirely bonkers. But I'll tell you a secret. All the best people are.
Dear 13 year old moron.
For the love of god, stop speeding up the process of growing up, it'll be gone faster than you think and at the end of it all you'll wish you could've gone back. Stop smoking, stop drinking, you have all your life for that. Perfect yourself, motivate yourself. Do what you want to do and don't be afraid to do it. Don't sit around. Don't wait for the tomorrows. Do it now.
You will go through many changes, experience many things, love, hate, betrayal. Embrace it. But whatever you do. Do not give up. Don't give in to what your heart is saying. Fight. Fight for the things you love, because if you don't, they will perish they way they did to me.
