Hello dear-
I certainly know what it can be like to have one rule for one person, another for another and so on, but something I have learned that helps me, is do what feels right, try to remember they arn't intentionally trying to confuse you, and if you really feel as though you need to know a definate answer then sit them down and ask them...saying something on the lines of "I respect you all, but you all seem to be telling me different things, if you give me rules I will follow them, but I need one definate rule, not a different one for each of you, do you think you could clarify what you want from me?" Talking to them like and adult is probably going to get you adult responses, if this doesn't work, then just go with your instinct you tried what you could, and now you have to take it upon yourself to do what YOU think is right.
If you feel like those around you are relying on you to much, then talk to them about that as well. It is ok to no be there for everyone all the time, sometimes you have to take time for yourself, and trust me, you are going to be in a much better mind set after you have taken care of yourself first. Its always ok to say no, just let them know, you arn't pulling away to hurt them, you just need to concentrate on your own needs for a bit. If they are good friends, they will understand and want to help you like you have helped them.
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xx
Nicole
