Rant - **Adult**Ranting.. would like replies

[xforgotten.beautyx]

Paranoia paranoia paranoia. *shivers*.


Need to get my mind off of the paranoia.


So I'm gonna talk.

So I love my boyfriend. A lot. But we've only been together for about 3 months. Well, this weekend his parents are going away. And I want to have sex with him. But he's a virgin. And he's kind of sensative. And I don't know if I wanna take that from him and then hurt him or something. I mean, I know he wants to have sex, and it doesn't really matter to me because my last bf was a douche and took my virginity and now in this area I don't care. Cause I like Sex. I am NOT a slut though. but yeah. anyways. I don't know. We both wanna have sex, But I don't want to have his manly hormones take over and then afterwards have him be hurt or something. No idea. idk. Just thought I'd get that out. reply if you'd like. It MIGHT help

[tears before bedtime]

I know what you mean, i was in the same position with my ex
he was a virgin but wanted to have sex whereas i wasn't.
but basically with him it just kinda happened.
One thing you can't do is think you can't do it because you might hurt him, if he wants to sleep with you it will happen.
My advice is don't think too much into it just go with the flow and see what happens.
Make sure you are ready yourself tho...
you might like sex but this is a new guy, make sure you're ready with him
3months isn't that long.

sorry if ive just written a whole load of crap
goodluck and takecare
Pm me if you want to talk some more
xxx

[gooberthemoose]

oh yea......ive been in this situation several times......however instead of thinking about hurting him......i just acted and ended up hurting him because i got selfish.....so its good that you dont want to do this and that your brought it up hoping for advice bcus it just makes it better to hear from others in your position. anways.....just talk to him about it.....plan something.....ask him if he wants to and if not then dont. sex can be a dangerous thing

[bloodletting]

firstly i have to say that just because you enjoy sex does not make you a slut, i may be wrong but it seemed that you thought that because you wrote that you enjoy sex ppl would consider you a slut, only narrow minded ppl think that way hun.
secondly if it happens with this guy then let it happen, dont focus on it to much, it will put to much pressure on you and him. and if your intentions are good then you wont end up hurting him, you may sleep together and then one day decide to not be together, this doesnt mean you'll hurt him. i dunno if any of that made sense..but good luck hun.
take care xoxoxox

[Keep Smiling]

i know exactly what you mean,, i could have written that same things a couple of years ago! its actually quite scary. =))

if you both want it to happen then it will,, don't blame yourself for what happens afterwards. as said above though, make sure you are ready yourself. have you spoken to him about any of this? it might be a good idea,, you will know if you are both ready to do it if you are able to speak to eachother openly about sex.

take care.

lucy.
x x x