Triggering (SI) - Who knows you go on RYL? If anyone.
I have been going on RYL for more than a year I think now and my mum only just found out a couple days ago and she doesn't agree with it but she doesn't stop me because she knows she cant as I try to explain to her that it's a good SI site where you get lots of support and what not.
And the other day my step dad was searching the web history and he came across this and I was like "can you not look at that it's private and personal" and he was like "no, I'm not looking at what you write I just want to see" and he was being an arsehole and me and my mum were like "stop it" he was in a horrible mood. he doesnt make me feel any good about myself so I just ignore him.
How do you feel about them knowing?
Did your mum say why she didn't like you coing on here?
And it sounds like your dad wasn't very nice about it. I hope he's different when he's in a better mood!
*hugs*
Who knows? My boyfriend knows because I told him about it, so he joined. My friend knows about it because she found me on here (is also a member). Her friend knows too because we found each other.
My family think I'm 100% fine though, so are completely oblivious.
I hope your parents are more understanding once they realise this is a support site.
take care xxx
My mum thinks it's bad to wallow in my illness and self harm. I don't like anyone knowing tbh as I like something that's just to do with me and nothing to do with anyone else, it's no ones business this is very private and the things I write on here I wouldn't even tell my psychiatrist let alone my step dad Ian who is an asshole.
She doesn't have a very good attitude to it does she?
Sorry.
I know what you mean about this being very private, so I'm sorry your step dad read it. I'd hate mine to read it (he's also an asshole!)
I don't like people knowing who I am on here either. My boyfriend doesn't know who I am :s
Maybe now your mum and stepdad know they might leave it be?
I really hope so.
my mum caught me going on and now i'm thinking she might have a look to see what its about, but i agree what i write on here is private you know... sometimes its nice to beable to say what you feel without any one you know in real life knowing that its you.
Dreams come true. Without that possibility nature would not incite us to have them . John Updike
Exactly, I just want something that's my own and I can say anything I want to and no one will judge me for thinking/saying it. I just want it to be private if you know what I mean. I think my mum will let me be because she knows to let me have my space but my step dad Ian doesn't know when to stop and when he's gone too far.
I don't like people knowing who I am on here either. My boyfriend doesn't know who I am :s
I could have written exactly that. I told my boyfriend about this site, because I thought it could help him, but he doesn't know who I am.
Alyssa hun would talking to him help?
Just telling him that if he goes on the site, he's gone too far?
I don't know but I hope so, because privacy is definitely something that should be valued.
my candle burns at both ends
it will not last the night
but ah my foes
and oh my friends
it gives a lovely light!
yeah do think he would listen if you explained that it helps to have somewhere to let you feeling out without worrying about being judged because it would be awful if you didnt feel you could be honest on here
good luck xxxx
Dreams come true. Without that possibility nature would not incite us to have them . John Updike
At the minute, nobody knows i'm on here except a few web friends who know i SI.
I'm trying to work on telling my parents and direct them to here and LS(lifeSIGNS) but i won't tell them who i am and i'll make a few changes to my profile and stuff so it can't be worked out.
My mom knows that I go on an SI-related site, cause I've told her things about it before, and I think she knows the initials from when she read my journal (but I checked, and just Googling "RYL" doesn't get you here), but as far as I know she hasn't seen the site. And if she did find it, and figure out who I am, I think I'd die...
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My parents know. And they think its good I come on here because its a positive site ^_^ My mum also knows I have a journal on here, but she respects my privacy and doesnt try to find it. Plus the fact she doesnt know my username helps. Not that she would be able to navigate her way around here anyways (before I told her about RYL she didnt know what a forum was! >.<) ...
In the UK if you Google RYL it does direct you here, just so ya know.
edit: invisible - your avatar looks like the old version of the jubjubs on neopets! I never noticed before!
In the UK if you Google RYL it does direct you here, just so ya know.
Oh shit... yeah, it does here too, I just didn't scroll far enough down the page. Now I'm kinda worried... I checked my mom's browser history, though, so she at least hasn't been to this site in the past week, and therefore isn't reading it regularly or anything
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edit: invisible - your avatar looks like the old version of the jubjubs on neopets! I never noticed before!
Yep, that's cause it is
Emily
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Uhm.. I don't think anyone knows as such.. Like I havent told anyone, but I dunno, they might have seen the website in the history.. My rents are pretty good with letting me have space though, so I don't think they'd really come check it out.
Well, one of my best friends knows I go on here...because she's on here too. One of my coworkers knows about it too. I told my old counsellor about it before. I tend to refer people to RYL when they see my scars and make comments like "My kid just started self harming and I don't know what to do." I don't mind people knowing I'm on RYL.
my mum found out in the Page History.. I said that I was mainly on here to help out a friend and because I had recently mentioned a girl I know who's depressed I think she believed me!
Now I have to just type it in google every time..
my mum, my friends, a few of my teachers (LONG story)
If only you'd ever speak to me
the way you once did
look at me the way you once did
pull to me the way you once did
but you don't
you don't feel anymore
you don't care anymore
it's all gone
it's all gone
