Triggering (SI/OD) - Attention seeking

Hannah · 07-06-2007, 09:08 PM

What is it with everyone thinking im just attention seeking. My brother and his girlfriend said that they think that ive just made up everything ive said. They said they wouldnt be surprised if i had drawn all the marks on my arms and they dont beleve i have taken two overdoeses and apparently im not at all depressed. Thay say i have just made it all up to get some attention. How dare they say what they did, they dont know what im going through. I meen as if i would make all that up, attention is the last thing i want. What they said hurt me so much. I wish i was making it all up but the truth is im not. I just think whats the point in even trying to help myself when all the people that matter to you dont beleve a word that comes out of your mouth.

Just wondered if anyone else had had people calling them attention seekers?

Thanx
Hannah x

tweety pie 84 · 07-06-2007, 10:16 PM

heya,
yeah i completely know what ya mean. My dad thinks that of me, although he has never directly said it (has done indirectly). All my friends without mh problems think it. The way i feel is a complete no go subject area with them. Which i guess is why i have so many friends with mh problems. They understand better than anyone and they get it. My point is that they dont understand and they carnt understand, not unless they have been there themselves. I know it hurts but try not to let it get to you. You know urself how u feel.

Pomegranate · 07-06-2007, 11:54 PM

Yes people have done before and it hurts. But I think they only say it because they don't understand and it is easier to believe someone you care about is in that much emotional pain to want to hurt themselves. Tbh I don't think anything you say will make them change their mind but as time passes they should. I know that doesn't really help but that's all I got atm.

Be safe :)

Margo · 08-06-2007, 12:41 AM

Ive not been called an attention seeker but ive been asked why i cant just "snap out of it" more times than i can remember.

its hard but you must realise that mental illness is scary to alot of people and its still very much unknown. Because people cant see it they cant relate unless they have been there themselves. They fear it and so they attack it because they dont understand it.

Its a real struggle but im afraid that its up to us that suffer to try to educate those around us. I know that you probably dont have the energy to do so but when you can try to print off info on depression and such. Give them as much info as you can find. Thne its up to them to read it or not. At least you will know you have done whAT YOU CAN TO TRY MAKE THEM understand. Oops sorry bout the caps!!!

I assure you that IF they understood they would not be saying this.

Take care

matthew xxx

pea soup · 08-06-2007, 08:46 PM

hi there...
ive never been called an attention seeker but i have numerous friends and family that ask "why can you just not get better?"

they tell me others have been through the same thing and are doing fine.
it makes me feel quite guilty but i have to realize that theyve never been "here", where i am, so they havent a clue.
much love.
xx

ChrisG · 08-06-2007, 09:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Apple

...i have numerous friends and family that ask "why can you just not get better?"

My wife is an anorexic who's recovered and relapsed again. When she was recovering the first time round I was helping her through it and often felt very frustrated by the way that her self-perception of her body was so completely wrong (when recovered she is absolutely beautiful and has an amazing body, while she was at her worst it was painful to look at her).

I just couldn't understand what was going on because it made no sense to me. I didn't say so, because I could at least get my head round the fact that it was real to her whether I could make sense of it or not.

She's left me at new year's so I guess she now has her ED (I hope she recovers again, and stays recovered) and I have my SH (not too fussed whether I recover or not tbh)

darklainnie · 08-06-2007, 10:18 PM

Mate .. i can totally empathise how you are feeling right now ..

When my best mate of 11 yrs found out about my SH she called me an attention seeker and I have had quite a few ppl call me that in my past, and it hurts like hell ...

As so many ppl have said if they understoood they would nt say those things, maybe u can try to help them understand .. it is tough .. we are here for you

*hugs*

PS I live in Medway, Kent

hypocrisy · 09-06-2007, 01:40 AM

well,in some ways SI is about seeking attention, but that isn't to say that that is somehow bad because sometimes our wounds scream louder than we do. i think in many ways people label people as ' nothing more than attention seekers' because they don't want to know/they are afraid to see because seeing to see would mean to admit something must be wrong not only with you but with themselves.

tell your brother that if that's all he has to say to you about your SI then he just needs to shut the hell up- his girlfriend included because she ain't even got nothing to do with anything.and just get prahject on him and tell him to kiss your whole asshole while he's at it.