How do I deal with her? *somewhat trig*

[Daydream]

Theres a girl who I met on a pro SI site over a year ago. She seemed alright so I gave her my mobile number for support. Up until about two months ago I was getting texts every night saying how she wanted to die and cut and all that. I could tell that she weren't just sending them to me, but to a few people, because she didnt reply to any of my texts and they werent at all personalised, so I stopped replying after a while, seeing that if she werent going to reply then it was a waste of my money. Now I get them once a week or so.
She wonders why people call her *insert suicidal nickname here* when she broadcasts on her myspace (which is seen by her friends I'm guessing because she asks people in bulletins about classes and stuff) about her self harm and suicidal-ness.
My psychologist says I have to start thinking of myself before other people, because its affecting my recovery.
I just dont want to deal with her any more. What do I do, without upsetting her?

[surprising mystery]

Ohhhh man I have been in a very similar situation. Sometimes you just need to plainly say, I am sorry but I cant cope with this at the moment, please stop contacting me with these messages because there are other people who can support you better than me. Give her the number of samaritans and hope she uses it. Please dont feel guilty for saying this because it is having a bad effect on your health.

Take care and PM me if you wanna chat, I bet I would have a fair few similarities with someone I know from a unit. :/

x Marie x

[raining]

surprising mystery is right, tell her that this isnt a good time for you either and that you need to focus on your own problems right now.

it sounds like shes receiving support of quite a few people at the moment by all the texts shes obviously sending out so try not to feel guilty about it.
She needs to speak to someone professional about her problems or someone who is better equipped to deal with her and help her, her texting you a lot and not giving any support back to you was a bit unfair i have to say.

hope it goes well.

[Urethra Franklin]

She isn't looking for real support, or at least that's not all the reason for her actions, she's most probably just after seeking attention. I'll resist speculation and leave the reasons for this to the professionals, but I don't need to be one to know that it's just pure emotional vampirism to contact those out of reach threatening harm to yourself when they are completely powerless to act. Pro-SI sites are havens to sneaks liars and manipulators, well in my experience anyway.

[Kitty]

The other two are right, just tell her you cant cope cos around here your more important than she is. You could always give her the web adress of here so she doesnt think your compeltely abondoning her, so she thinks your trying to help her. If she still keeps texting you after you tell her to stop then tell her your getting a new phone or something. But if you ever wanna talk i'm here. And dont let her trigger you and upset you, i know it's hard but stay strong.

Love Kitty x
P.s hope this helped!

[Tears and Rain]

I think it's right to echo what the other's have said really, to simply try and tell her that it's not a good time for you right now and you really need a bit of time..then like others have said maybe try and offer her some form of other help such as here/other sites, just to show you're not abandoning her and you do care you just can't deal with it right now.
Your psychologist however is right and you do need to concentrate on yourself at the moment hun. If not telling her then if it's possible to block her number without too much hassle that might even be an easier option y'know?
Take care x

[BeautyFiend]

Oh dear lord, how I relate to this situation!!
I think your psychologist is right, you have to put yourself first.
If you can't deal with the stuff she's throwing at you, just try to ignore it.
Block her number if it's necessary, or just explain to her that you're just not strong enough in yourself right now to deal with other people's problems...
xx

[l.e.g.o]

I know this situation completely and your psychiatrist is right!

As she doesnt respond to your texts anyway just say you feel she is getting nothing out of this and that you have been advised to move away from things relating to selfharm-she may react badly but sometimes as my signature says the hardets thing and the right thing are the same

hope it goes well