Triggering (Suicide/Sexual Abuse) - help me

martin-london · 26-12-2007, 04:43 AM

hi i martin im 20 years old from middelsex i was raped by my bro when i was tiny can anyone help im copeing with it plz help i feel like sliting my arm

ScarlettAngel · 26-12-2007, 06:51 AM

sorry you feel this way, im 18 and i was raped by my brother for years. its hard. i SI but if you dont, please dont start, its an awful thing, it doesn't solve anything! please if talking about it will help, feel free to message me, im here for you if you need to chat, anytime!
take care

Stellata · 26-12-2007, 09:48 AM

Are you only recently remembering it, or has it been distressing you for some time? Are you getting any support?
Can you say some more about the feelings that are making you want to hurt yourself?

Sooty · 26-12-2007, 12:02 PM

Hi Martin,

I'm so sorry about the experience you have been through. Does anyone know about this? Your family? A counsellor? Sometimes things in the past can come back and haunt you... making it virtually imposible to move forward. Sometimes you need to go back and explore the past and talk it through with someone you trust in order to be able to move forward. I know it seems like the easy option to cut when you remember such awful things but I'm afraid that cutting won't make these painful memories go away. We are all here for you if you need to talk. You may feel that you could gain better and more specific support in the Abuse and Bullying Support Forum. Take care
Sophie.x

Cazki · 26-12-2007, 04:46 PM

Im so sorry to hear about what your going through. You dont deserve this at all. You deserve so much better. I know its hard because you will have this hanging over you for the rest of your life and that what happened will never be forgot but harming yourself wont make things better at all. It just makes things a whole lot worse.

We will all support you through this difficult time because we all really care about you. I hope that in time you can put some of this truly awful experience behind you. I know it wont be easy and that it will take some time but you can do it. You can get through this i know you can. You have been really brave posting im so proud of you. I know its not always easy posting. But well done you did the right thing. Please keep posting and talking to us.

Best wishes Ian

bobbiwibble · 26-12-2007, 10:42 PM

I'm so sorry for what you're been through, you don't deserve it at all :(
The others have all said what I was planning to say, but I just wanted you to know that we are all here for you, the whole of RYL :)
Do you still see your brother?
PM me if you need to talk, and please please don't SI it doesn't even really help in the short term and it certainly doesn't in the long term xxxxbobbib

lydia. · 26-12-2007, 11:42 PM

Heya,
I'm really sorry to hear that happened, but remember hurting yourself is never the answer. Try your best to keep yourself distracted, or just keep your hands busy.
How are you coping? We're always here if you need support.
Oh & welcome to RYL :)
xz

idontwantnomorescars · 28-12-2007, 11:00 AM

hey martin, you didnt deserve what happened to you and i'm sorry that it did but dont punish yourself for what happened it wasnt your fault it was your brothers and he should never have done what he did to you. stay safe and strong dont give into the temptation of cutting it wont solve anything only make things that much more complicated