My boyfriend is good about my SIs, and tries to support me as much as he can. He wakes up in the night when I can't cope and helps me hide them from others. I know I've got a good thing here and I don't want to mess it up. It's just everytime I SI, he always gets so upset and I feel worse, like I'm letting him down. I want to stop self injuring, but for me, not for someone else, that never works. I can't stand seeing him so sad.
Does anyone have any advice on how I could hide it from him, I'm at a loss.
hi *hugs*
sorry if this advise its very good but
i think if you tried to hide tihngs from him it might jsut make it worse for both of you. he might feel like you dont trust him as much, you know cos youll be hiding things. also it might make you worse constantly worrying about having toh ide them and what he will do if he found out.
could you explain to him that you can only stop when you are ready to, and thank him for supporting you thro everythihng youve been thro.
its natural for him to be upset if he sees someone he loves hurting themselves, but i tihnk the best way to go about it is to explain as much as you can to him so when you do ahve to cut he will kinda know what goes through youre mind and he can jsut be there for you.
sorry if this is rambly.
take care
xxx
hey hun.
first of all, it sounds like you're boyfriend really cares for you and as he already knows about the SI any attempts to cover it up might not work. plus, are you sure you want to cope alone- yes it hurts him but is only because he cares.
if you're really desperate to hide them it depends where they are. jewellery/ arm warners if they're on your arms (preferably stuf you can sleep in). girly boxes if its the top of your legs or long underwear.
i think you have the right idea in not quitting for anyone else but you hun but as it souds like you're not ready for that yet, why not let your boyfriend support you through it? i'm sure you'd do the same for him.
take care
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what the others have said.
You've got the right idea that you can only stop when you want to - not when others want you too.
Sounds like you've got a good guy there, that he cares about you a lot. I think it's best that you don't tried to hide it from him, he probably will think that you don't trust him.
Explain to him how you feel, and then ask him to tell you what he feels.
It's a two way thing, and it all depends on trust.
Take care
Lozx
You don't have to be a monkey to recognize a banana!
It sounds like you shouldn't try and hide them from him. Yes, it upsets him, but if he's prepared to help and support you when your low, I think its only fair that you are honest with him.
I don't know about how old you are or what kind of relationship you have with your boyfriend, but personally I'd find it impossible to hide any fresh wounds from mine. If I dont want him to notice anything I get undressed in the dark, but then if he does notice then I am completely honest about what has happened.
take care
xxx
Its your choice, but i dont think you should even try and find them. He obv loves you and could be hurt and isolated if he thinks your hiding things from him. He going to be upset when he sees them, but from your post, i would say he seems very supportive of you about it. So he wants to help you get better and such.
Sorry if im being repetitive, ive not read the other posts.
