Triggering (SI) - How do you react when someone makes a joke about being "emo" and SIing?
Like when someone says something like "Oh I'm so sad. I'm going to turn emo and go sit in a corner and cry and cut myself." Or when someone jokingly makes a cutting motion with their hand over their wrist? Do you laugh it off, get defensive, just ignore it?
I am screaming and kicking and sobbing inside, but i kinda laugh it off in public and say something like "you shouldn't pick on people that cut, what would THAT accomplish?"
I hate it when I am in work or something, and someone will say 'smile' or 'be happy' - I mean it is not as if I an intentionally trying to look depressed, it is just how I feel and I'm not good at hiding it - even when I feel happy, people still tell me to cheer up.
Anyway, yeah - when someone says things like 'i'm going to go slit my wrists' or ' igonnae walk infront of a bus' in sarcastic tones, because they mock it and think it's funny :(
People have even said sarcastically to me, if you feel that down (because I am not smiling and chirpy) that I should go slit my wists...hardly going to show them, am I :(
Something has changed within me, something is not the same, I'm through with playing by the rules of someone elses game. Too late for second guessing, too late to go back to sleep, its time to trust my instincts, close my eyes and leap....
Somethings I cannot change, but till I try I'll never know...
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Big hugs to all my friends on here, thanks for your constant support - love you guys
I nomally say "Hey, that's not ****ing funny! People really do have that problem. The only reason why you idiots make fun of it is because you don't understand. Grow up and read a book." I normally say that so maybe they have to decency to actually learn about it. Never happens though.
If only you'd ever speak to me
the way you once did
look at me the way you once did
pull to me the way you once did
but you don't
you don't feel anymore
you don't care anymore
it's all gone
it's all gone
I have that same problem. I just ignore it. There's no use arguing with people that are just ignorant. They will not listen to a word you say and if you get defensive you will look suspicious anyway.
(BTW love your avatar Laci. I love that show, and especially that character.)
I guess it would somewhat upset me to hear a comment like that but I’d probably keep my opinion to myself and ignore their stupidity. They obviously don’t know what they’re talking about, so why get into an argument with someone who knows nothing on the subject.
Ignorance is bliss I suppose.
It's a basic truth of the human condition that everybody lies. The only variable is about what.
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I lock myself inside these walls
'Cause out there I'm always wrong
I don't think I'm gonna make it.
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I'll usually say that I don't think it's funny. It depends on who the person is and how I know them, but I almost always say that it isn't funny. Sometimes people who know will forget and I'll say "don't" and they'll apologize.
Usually I just won't say anything, even though I want to yell at them and slap them. XP I'll be thinking about how f*cking ignorant they are, and screaming at them in my mind. I probably would say something if I wasn't worried that then they'd think I SI.
Although I might do it the next time one of my friends says something about it. Or maybe I'll chicken out, as usual.
2 o'clock in the morning, something's on my mind
Can't get no rest; keep walkin' around
If I pretend that nothin' ever went wrong, I can get to my sleep
I can think that we just carried on
This is the hardest story that I've ever told
No hope, or love, or glory
Happy endings gone forever more
I feel as if I'm wasted
And I'm wastin' every day
My friends do that alot well one of them does so i tell her "shut the hell up because it isn't funny and some people do go through. If it was you would you laugh?" and then i walk away before i hit her and when people realise i'm being serious they follow me and then i get bugged about why i'm so "Sensitive" about it and then i have a massive rant and then they all shut up
id flip out if they knew about my SI but if they didnt i have no choice but to keep my mouth shut, i might shout and say its unfair to people who do selfharm if i felt it was needed or i was just in that kind of mood. i really dont take jokes about SI well because i know what its like to be accused of attention seeking when i know im not and i think that its very rare u get SIer that are only doing it for attention there has to be reasoning behind it. Yer i think 9 times out of 10 id go mad, bad init i think i have a few anger problems to work threw
<3 He took the blade from her hand and whispered gently in her ear " hold on and everything will be alright" <3
I have a friend who thinks he's funny and says stuff like 'oh no i'm so depressed, i'm going to go and sit in the dark and cry and cut myself', to which i usually reply haha, that's really not funny or you shouldn't joke about stuff like that. Or something... I'm a pretty argumentative person when i wanna be and stuff like that just makes me mad! I can't say too much mind because he doesn't know about my SI. I never laugh though, it only encourages the idiot
I think it just depends... it always bothers me a little, makes me a tad bit uncomfortable when people make those kinds of jokes. I usually don't say anything, though, and try to ignore it... I know several people who make those kinds of jokes and some (not all) of them know I'm in recovery. I think people just don't think about how it might affect someone who does SI and who also isn't 'open' about it.
It doesn't bother me. Really. The closest person to me in my life jokes about emos regularly (and I join in), but "emos" and people who SI are totally different in my opinion. I know a lot of people lump them together but there's no point getting riled over ignorance.
I see emos as people who threaten to and/or gloat about it, or show it off and "glamorise" it (even if they don't really SI in real life) for the attention and sympathy. People who SI because it's the only way they can cope with extreme stress is totally different. When I do it the last thing I want is people around me to know. I don't even want people I only know online to know.
So since I don't see people who SI because of overwhelming stress as being in the same category as an emo no, it doesn't offend me at all. "Emos" do it to get a reaction from people. other people who SI do it as a coping mechanism for themself and don't want other people to know. At least this is my assumption based on how I feel about it. I may be wrong if the majority of people who SI DO want other people to know and give sympathy and attention.
