Me! I'll never have kids ever ever ever no matter what!
Well it breaks my heart to see you this way,
The beauty in life, where's it gone?
And somebody told me you were doing okay,
Somehow I guess they were wrong.
I've been married for 18 years. Before we married my husband and I decided that we would not have children. We both suffer from clinical depression. I grew up in an awful household and with violence. By the time I was married I'd raised my sister and my mom and was tired of it.
Before we married we talked a lot to make sure we were well suited before we married, same political, financial and religeous outlook and the mutual decision to not have kids. That may sound cold hearted but we don't have arguments over those things. We do argue over other things...
I'm 41. Sometimes I've heard my biological clock ticking. Then I see some out of control little terror. Or hear the sound of an exhausted baby crying while his mom runs one last errand. I just don't have the resources. I know there are lots of people who see a baby and see potential and innocence. I see 20 years of 24 hour/day care.
I'm happy with the choice my husband and I made.
Sorry about the essay.
My husband is my best friend.
In forgiving others, we are not exonerating them. They may not deserve exoneration. Rather, in forgiving others we are giving up our anger over the fact that what happened is not what "should" have happened or that our life is not the way it "should" have been.
Bit off topic, but as a vegan, if you WERE to have kids, would you breast feed?
I'm not a vegan, but since the point of not eating dairy is mainly because of objections to how it's produced (usually animal cruelty), I assume that breast feeding would be fine...
Emily
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Bit off topic, but as a vegan, if you WERE to have kids, would you breast feed? Something that I've been wondering about a bit, from time to time.
& I want lots of babies
I'll just point you in the direction of this post *I made on the Vegan FAQ blog project. (WARNING- ADULT CONTENT)... and yeah, invisible girl is correct.
I want something else to get me through this
Semi-charmed kind of life baby baby
FWIW I think you are being extremely sensible for choosing to wait. :)
Oh, and no offense or anything guys, but for your amusement (and partly because my brain hurts) here are some amusing links to breeder bingo and vegan bingo, for all the things we childfree people and vegans would be very, very rich if we were given money every time we heard 'em!
I want something else to get me through this
Semi-charmed kind of life baby baby
Bit off topic, but as a vegan, if you WERE to have kids, would you breast feed? Something that I've been wondering about a bit, from time to time.
& I want lots of babies
As a vegan, yes i would breast feed. The milk is designed for the baby, its hers and is better for her than formula milk.
That said, i have no intentions of becoming a mother. i want a career and a life, not to be stuck at home. ive done enough of that already and if you dont want to care for your children yourself then you shouldnt have them
This isn't entirely a result of choice, but connected with the trauma of my own birth, and other PTSD connected issues - like a fear of men and sex etc etc.
There's a lot of pain around this for me, a lot of grief.
And I'm nearly 38 so it's getting too late even if I could change things soon.
^^ Well if you ever do decide that you want kids, and you think you are mentally stable enough to handle the responsibility, you could always consider adoption you know.
Laura
"I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." ~Mother Theresa
Sometimes I've heard my biological clock ticking. Then I see some out of control little terror. Or hear the sound of an exhausted baby crying while his mom runs one last errand. I just don't have the resources. I know there are lots of people who see a baby and see potential and innocence. I see 20 years of 24 hour/day care.
I agree 100%
Have any of you read the book "I hate other people's kids" ? It's hilarious.
Well it breaks my heart to see you this way,
The beauty in life, where's it gone?
And somebody told me you were doing okay,
Somehow I guess they were wrong.
Sorry, but that's an oxymoron. Childfree by choice means you have no intentions to ever be a parent, period. You could call yourself a fencesitter, or not ready yet, or whatever, but you either are childfree by choice or aren't. 
