Talk to defensive person

[Corey1234]

Hi! At my new school, there is this very defensive and lonely girl. She seems really interesting, but no one seems to like her since she is incredibly provocative. I know she has social anxiety and I guess that is why she is so mean towards others. I would like to get to know her but I dont know how to act or what to say.
How do you talk to a person like that without being dissed or told to **** off?

[Entropy]

Hi, I guess it is difficult but all you can do is try your best.
Maybe she has had a lot of negative attention in the past and so she is very defensive now. If you try to take things slowly with her and show her that you aren't going to just abandon her or be mean then hopefully she will begin to trust you and not behave negatively towards you.
I guess I would look for an opportunity to do something nice for her or help her with something. If she responds negatively then my advice would be to stay really mature about it all and bring it up with her later and explain that you were just trying to be nice and that how she responded hurt your feelings.

[Rilic]

I would say..
sometimes reminding them of their attitude, that's it's rude or inappropriate, in the sense that "what have I done to you?"
Asking them why are they being like that to you, what did I say or do, so they I can avoid doing it again. I find it the best way for someone being negative to question if you've done anything worthy of their rudeness, or if it's something in themselves, and either way it gives you something to work with.


and take on what entropy said, be patient and keep trying and try do something nice.