Losing a friend

[Sadaf]

Today I lost my best friend of nearly three years. We had major differences and unfortunately, no matter how hard I tried, couldnt fix what was broken. He meant a lot to me and today, we parted ways. I have been a mess since then; a puddle of tears at this point.

I dont know how to deal with this. I loved him very much and put so much effort into our friendship, just to see it disintegrate before my eyes. How do I deal with this? What are the steps I should take to move on?

[Petrichor]

It's always really hard to lose a friend, no matter how it happens. I'm sorry that you've had to go through this.

Does it help to think about the reasons why you are no longer friends? There are obviously reasons why it's no longer a good relationship.

[Sadaf]

Kind of. But the wounds are still fresh and thinking about the reasons brings on a painful sting. Watching all my efforts be thrown to the side is almost unbearable.

[purplegirl2]

why not accept that this is what things have come to and there are reasons why it has reached this?

it is very normal to mourn lost friendship. appreciate what was.

but u will be ok.

value yourself. if your efforts arent being valued, move on.

[be here now]

People will come into your life at certain points to help you learn something or for you to help them. It's a shock at first when the parting happens, but realise that maybe you've both received and given what you need within the friendship. Moving on will happen although the words "moving on" actually mean trying to escape this part of your life because there's too much pain involved. The best thing to do would to feel the pain fully and grieve for as long as is needed. You'll find it comes in waves where you'll be okay and then feel intense emotion suddenly. This is natural and the best thing to do is be present in the moment and feel that emotion for what it is. Don't blame yourself and don't blame them. There are many others waiting to cross your path and some will be there to help you grow and some will stick around for the duration of the ride of your life. Know that you are not truly alone. You are loved more than you can imagine. Love and light to you.