how to help a friend who hate themselfs

[Alyah]

hi everyone I'm new to this site I hope I could find some help!

yesterday my friend told me that she feels that her heart is empty, she has no one she likes, I tried convincing her that it's not necessary to like everyone ! then after a long dissection she said maybe I should like myself first to allow others to enter my heart !
I didn't know how to respond
she has really good parts but even if I told her about them she'll think I'm being nice!
I noticed something about her, I was too scared to point it out, I was scared I might lose her. she has 4 other sisters, they kinda live in a competitive way, and keep discouraging each other, even her mom, she once told me that her she keeps pointing to some stuff like not having friends or her weight , I know her mom is trying to make her better but it's actually hurting her, she also told me that when ever she tells her mom about a problem her mom would blame her instead of calming her, and I noticed that she does the same to me, she always comment on my weight, she compete with everything and tries to say I have no friends, at first I used to get mad but after I saw the whole picture I realized she does that because her family is doing the same to her! I felt bad for her, and mad at myself for not noticing how hard it must have been to her, have someone discouraging you all the time!
I've been through a lot and she helped me be a better person! and now I can't return the favor ! I feel useless
she rarely talks about her issues, she has a bit of pride that kinda keeps her away from me,, and she's pretty close to her mom.. if I'd tell her what I think she'd probably hate me or think I'm trying to make her hate her mom or trying to prove that she's less than me or she might even have another reason and I'm wrong about my theory!

all I want is to help a friend who once got me through hell !
please give me a good advice! something I wont regret
and excuses my English it's not my mother language

[Greene0Kelly]

Hug her every day. Even she doesn't want to talk, a hug gives a thousand support messages. There will come a time she will brought up what she wants to vent out. Just be there for her no matter what even she's saying she doesn't have any friends.

[Alyah]

i know hugs are perfect, but she hates hugs, i do hug her even if she doesn't like it, but also she kinda lives far away, in a different country, the close type thing, when you get to see them once every month or something, so a hug isn't enough, though thanks, the step thing is really helpful.

[be here now]

Sometimes all you can do is be the non judging, peaceful presence in someone's life. We all have our own journeys and sometimes you have to step back and let them go through a hard time. That can actually be a greater act of compassion than trying to fix their problem. Sometimes they have to fix their own problems. You are doing nothing wrong and I applaud you for being there for her. If she needs to talk then be there to talk with her. If she needs to cry then let her cry. Part of her suffering will be passed over from her family like you said and that's a process that has to work itself out. As long as you send waves of love and compassion towards her then it will seep in between the gaps of the pain and sadness. You are helping more than you realise by just being that bright, warm and loving presence in her life. You are doing just fine :) Love and light to you and her.