Poll is anonymous but if want to share your reasons then please do so. If you have children already and feel able to share what it's like being a parent then please tell us!
(I may be feeling a little broody)
There are, it has been said, two types of people in the world. There are those who, when presented with a glass that is exactly half full, say: 'This glass is half full'. And then there are those who say: 'This glass is half empty'.
The world belongs, however, to those who can look at the glass and say: 'What's up with this glass? Excuse me? Excuse me? This is my glass? I don't think so. My glass was full! And it was a bigger glass!
But I'm getting old and I'm not sure I will have them as I am single and that saddens me!
When we lose twenty pounds... we may be losing the twenty best pounds we have! We may be losing the pounds that contain our genius, our humanity, our love and honesty. ~Woody Allen
Is a chocolate muffin loving glitter ball
Nope! I am engaged and already had the baby talk with my fiance. He doesn't want kids either. I have 5 nieces and a nephew and being an Aunt is good enough for me.
I said 'not sure'. I always wanted to, but I don't think I'm stable enough or energetic enough. I really struggle with loud noises too. I don't want to pass on anxieties either. Also didn't deal well with pregnancy.
I've never had any maternal feelings and always assumed I'd never have kids, I'm 29 now and don't see my point of view ever changing. If any of my siblings ever have kids I'd love to help out, but I know I'd enjoy being able to hand them back after a while
Am I the only person really surprised that more people have said no than yes? Like, most people I know in real life very much want kids.
Wonder if a lot of people here feel they wouldn't be able to raise them rather than don't want them, (in relation to people who haven't stated their reasons and not people who have already commented obviously).
Also no, I really don't like kids and have no maternal instinct. Plus I love just having the freedom to be spontaneous, even being able to go for a walk in the evening like, so much has to be planned when you have kids. It just doesn't suit my lifestyle either.
Oh god I want to hear you say,
I want to hear you say that you were wrong again
This is the first thing
I have understood:
Time is the echo of an axe
Within a wood.
I suspect that most people on RYL would say no because of reasons like anxiety, depression, not wanting to pass on genes for mental illness, not being able to cope with a baby etc (even if these reasons are unfounded but still held on to).
I've always wanted children. When I was very mentally unwell I couldn't see it happening, and then decided that I didn't want to have a child that I 'passed on' my mental illness to. Then I worried if I did have kids then the fact I'd been sectioned would have an impact.
Now that I'm fairly recovered, in a stable long term relationship etc I am really broody. The only thing I am concerned about is having to stop my medication once I get pregnant. It's wise for me to wait a few years and then have a baby.
Isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes but when you look back, everything is different…
you once called your brain a hard drive, well say hello to the virus.
I agree with your first comment there Sarah about why results might lean towards the 'no' here.
The only time I've ever felt it might be possible was in my last relationship, I'm chronically single and so when I think if children it's usually just me and alone u wouldn't cope. When I had a partner I started to realise there'd be two of us and maybe it would be manageable.
But ultimately I just don't like children and I don't think I could handle it. I've never ever pictured myself with children.
Also I wonder if the sexuality of member plays a part? But yep I was surprised as well by how many nos there were/are!
I know that as it becomes increasingly unlikely I will have a child I've started to compensate by saying it's okay if you don't have a baby and so on.
When we lose twenty pounds... we may be losing the twenty best pounds we have! We may be losing the pounds that contain our genius, our humanity, our love and honesty. ~Woody Allen
Is a chocolate muffin loving glitter ball
I desperately want to have a child (not more than one)... but being so dysfunctional and not having nor wanting a partner makes it difficult and expensive as a prospect. I also have a complicated extended family situation and would need to totally cut off from most if not all of my relatives in order to keep a child safe.
Also, at my age, i see less and less chance of it happening, but I would love to have one.
I want to adopt. There are loads of children in the world who need a home and I would like to give one to at least one or two of them.
Wouldn't be for a long time yet as I am hardley in a financially viable place to have kids now. I also live at home and am single so that also goes against my favour. One day I will meet the right person though.
The world is just illusion always trying to change me.
You will find wonder wherever you can, and spread joy whenever you are able.
I felt emotions of gentleness and pleasure, that had long appeared dead, divide within me. - Frankenstein.
