I am almost 22 years old and I still live with my parents, not by choice, but because I am stuck with nowhere to go and no one to turn to. All I can do is reach out and hope for some kind of guidance.
I was pulled from school at 14 because my parents were constantly fighting and splitting up and dragging me all over the country to get away from each other all while playing into each others drama instead of focusing on their child, there was neglect prior to this, but they became so consumed with fighting and their own selfishness that the neglect over the years has become worse to the point that it has left me with nothing, I have no education, I have no job, I have no experience in this world, and I don't even have so much as a state ID, because no one has ever cared enough to prepare me for the world so I can live for myself.
Watching my life and everyone I love or have loved pass me by tears me up inside, I feel so alone and abandoned and I just don't what to do with myself, and I don't know where to start owning my life or how to even go about it.
Look up the papers needed to get an ID, it doesn't have to be a drivers license.
Life is not a race. It's hard to get there on your own, but you can do it!
I feel confident in my ability to take and pass the GED test save for the mathematics part of it, and I know what it would take to get my ID, but I don't have a way to go or anyone to take me to sign up for anything. My parents only care enough to keep me alive and sheltered, and the rest of my family is no better.
I don't know if this is helpful, but you are sounding pretty overwhelmed. Maybe if you write a list, breaking things down, you can manage them one thing at a time as you are able. And the things you can't do now can be put to the side for later on.
I would say the first thing to do is concentrate on looking for a job. Have you tried applying for anything? You may not have much formal education, but you are obviously computer literate and your written English is fine. I suspect you have more going for you than you realise. But anyway, if I were you, I'd start applying for any jobs I could. Once you get some money coming in, you'll be able to think about saving up for going to college or moving out of your parents or whatever you want to do longer term.
Sounds like you need a better support system too. You might make some more friends if you manage to start working somewhere (I know it's a hard thing when you don't have the right certificates). Otherwise have you got anyone to hang out with or anything? Is there any way you could join a club, volunteer for something, or get involved anything? Just to build your confidence up and make connections with people?
You don't need to have it all figured out now, so don't be hard on yourself. Just try to tackle one thing at a time.
Hugs.
Ps. I'm a total hypocrite. My life is a mess and I could do with taking some of my own advice!! ;p
I feel confident in my ability to take and pass the GED test save for the mathematics part of it, and I know what it would take to get my ID, but I don't have a way to go or anyone to take me to sign up for anything. My parents only care enough to keep me alive and sheltered, and the rest of my family is no better.
I'm guessing you live somewhere where public transportation is not plentiful. Could you offer to trade for a day of driving? Like, an offer to clean for an hour if they drive you somewhere? Or could you tag along with someone when they go somewhere?
I'm guessing you live somewhere where public transportation is not plentiful. Could you offer to trade for a day of driving? Like, an offer to clean for an hour if they drive you somewhere? Or could you tag along with someone when they go somewhere?
There is no public transportation around where I live, there is a taxi service but that's too expensive, and the thing about the cleaning bit is that I already keep everything clean and tidy, I'm expected to because my parents see me as nothing more than a servant. I don't earn anything from it, and I'm shown no appreciation.
