I love this idea.
I think you have everything I would put down.
I would have to have tidying the house/ changing bed sheets / hovering / doing washing as one and giving my cat some attention as aanother because they are things I tend to neglect.
The average,
well-adjusted adult
gets up at 7.30am feeling just plain terrible.
Call me Kate.
I have dyslexia so please excuse my poor spelling and sometimes poor understanding.
I will add points for doing meditation. Maybe also for when I'm having a bad day or struggling with something, I can get points if I am able to cope in a healthy way rather than a destructive one.
Edit: I don't think you should add punishments. To me, this is about rewarding good behaviours and making them habit. I don't know about you, but I think we spend enough time beating ourselves up over our failures, and it doesn't stop us from repeating them. Perhaps you should give yourself points for if you are able to limit destructive behaviours? Or maybe do another activity outside of points, for example if you SH or go to A&E, you could make yourself write about it in a journal; what happened, what you were feeling, how other people reacted, things you could do next time that might improve the outcome?
Last edited by iron.maiden : 06-09-2015 at 03:38 PM.
Reason: I hadn't read the full thread properly
A reward system is great and has proven psychological benefits (there have been studies looking into it) but I really would not do punishments as I do not think that would be helpful.
I like iron.maiden's idea of giving points for limiting destructive behaviour. Or for example if you did self harm you get some points for getting it treated by a doctor (though obviously do not self harm just so you can get points by going to A&E!).
Isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes but when you look back, everything is different…
you once called your brain a hard drive, well say hello to the virus.
you could also spend time when you're struggling looking up the sort of treats you'd be aiming for to keep you focused!
I have already listed my treats lol. The higher it gets the bigger the gap so the bigger the prize. My first treat is a lindt bar, so I'm not buying lindt chocolate until I've earned it.
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Perhaps you should give yourself points for if you are able to limit destructive behaviours? Or maybe do another activity outside of points, for example if you SH or go to A&E, you could make yourself write about it in a journal; what happened, what you were feeling, how other people reacted, things you could do next time that might improve the outcome?
I think this is a better idea. I think points for asking for help would be a good one to add, and that can be 5 points as well and go under the "phoning people" thing.
I think the reflection process you described is good though too. I will write that down thanks.
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(though obviously do not self harm just so you can get points by going to A&E!).
Imaginelol.
Last edited by [Purple_Rain] : 13-09-2015 at 11:08 AM.
Reason: Could be considered tip sharing
I would also allow more small treats as well as large ones, so you don't have to wait too long before getting a treat, which might make the process more attainable. For example, a daily reward like a favourite dvd or book and hot drink or anything else you may enjoy. The bigger rewards are a good idea, as it gives you something to aim for, but the smaller steps can be the hardest and it's important to give yourself credit where it's due.
I think this is a great idea.
How about points for challenging yourself? Is there something you find really scary but which is beneficial? For me that would be, for example, attending a social event. How about points for doing something nice for somebody else? That will make you feel good about yourself.
There are, it has been said, two types of people in the world. There are those who, when presented with a glass that is exactly half full, say: 'This glass is half full'. And then there are those who say: 'This glass is half empty'.
The world belongs, however, to those who can look at the glass and say: 'What's up with this glass? Excuse me? Excuse me? This is my glass? I don't think so. My glass was full! And it was a bigger glass!
It's called a Token Economy and I've seen it used by psychologists before but your particular list I think is really, really wonderful. You should be very proud :)
What other treats are you including? I've been failing miserably, because I've been doing my treats (mainly computer games) regardless of whether I earned them! :s
Flowers is a great idea. I'm a bit too skint at the moment for monetary reward though. I need a reward for not having my reward before I earned it! Hehe!
Yeah I haven't been able to do it properly since being in hospital but I might make a temporary sheet for whilst I'm here as my Filofax is at home :( xx
If you're really struggling points for getting through te day would be a good idea. I think it's important for the points to be relevant to your difficulties. Hence I have phone calls on there. Xx
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